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How to Overcome Depression without Medication: Hooray for Hypericum

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on June 26, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

sadMany people suffer from symptoms of minor depression sometime in their life.  Persistent sadness, moodiness, lethargy, tiredness, or suicidal thoughts can all be signs that you’re in the grips of depression.  What can you do?  Historically, the recommended treatment has been to take drugs such as Prozac or Zoloft—sometimes coupled with therapy.  Yet, these medications present a problem for many people.  First of all, getting a prescription and buying these medications can cost hundreds of dollars.   Secondly, many people find that anti-depressant medications don’t work at all or they can cause unpleasant side effects.  Fortunately, some people can overcome depression naturally. An inexpensive and safe alternative to anti-depressant medications has recently become popular; it’s called Hypericum—but it’s better known as St. John’s Wort.

How to Overcome Depression Without Medication.

St. John’s Wort is derived from a yellow-flowered plant that has been ingested around the world for some 2,000 years.  In 1994, the venerable Journal of Geriatric Psychiatry and Neurology devoted an entire issue to Hypericum.  One study done with 3,250 patients suffering from mild and moderate depression found that 80 percent of them felt better, or completely free of symptoms, after four weeks.   In Germany St. John’s Wort is the leading treatment for depression and is prescribed 25 times more frequently than Prozac.  Best of all, St. John’s Wort can be picked up at your local health food store without a prescription, and costs a lot less than any anti-depressant on the market.

Although more research needs to be done on Hypericum/St. John’s Wort, by all accounts it is a great way for overcoming depression without traditional medications.  Approximately 2.4% of those trying the herb experience side effects—ranging from restlessness to mild allergic reactions.  The percentage of people who report side effects from Prozac or Zoloft is markedly higher.  For example, approximately 20% of people who take Prozac experience headache, digestive difficulties and/or insomnia.   While Hypericum may make some people sensitive to the sun, the absence of serious side effects is one of its biggest selling points.

If you suffer from mild or moderate depression from time to time

consider trying STJohnsHypericum as a way to overcome depression naturally.   The recommended dosage is 300 milligrams of Hypericum extract, containing 0.3 percent of the active ingredient Hypericum, three times a day.  It takes between one and four weeks for the herb to start working.  Since it takes awhile for this medicine to have an effect, avoid trying it in response to momentary sadness or lethargy.  Yet, if you feel depressed for several weeks, there is little to risk and potentially a lot to gain from trying St. John’s Wort.

Due to the fact that I’m a therapist and not a psychiatrist, I’m not able to prescribe medication.  Frequently, clients would come to my office feeling depressed, but they lacked the funds to see a psychiatrist.  In addition, some clients simply refused to take drugs such as Prozac because they didn’t like the side effects or how it made them feel.   When I heard about Hypericum, I began suggesting it to clients I thought could benefit from its use.  In almost every case, glowing reports came back to me.  Many of the clients who had previously taken anti-depressants reported they liked Hypericum better.  Several of my clients said they experienced fewer side effects and/or found it to feel “more natural” than the previous medications they had tried.

If you try Hypericum or other anti-depressant remedies,

it’s important not to use them to avoid looking at important issues in your life.  Depression can often be a sign that certain aspects of your life are not working.  A good therapist or a good book that deals with a therapeutic approach to depression can be an important part of your recovery; the book Feeling Good by Dr. David Burns is a good place to start.   Although psychotherapy can be expensive, it can beat the cost of spending the rest of your life running from yourself.  If you decide to try therapy as part of your treatment, ask friends if they know of anyone they can recommend.  Another option is to call several therapists and talk to each of them on the phone to see which one feels right for you.

161718759Hypericum is not a cure-all for depression and sadness.  Yet, for many people it can be an enormous help.  If, after using Hypericum for four to six weeks, you don’t notice any improvement, consider seeing a psychiatrist for his or her recommendation.  If you keep trying new medications and/or forms of therapy, you’ll eventually find something that helps.  Don’t give up hope.  Even severely depressed people have been known to bounce back to a feeling of contentment after finding a treatment that was right for them.  Good luck on your search

Posted in Depression, Mood | Tagged depression, fullest, inspire, Jonathan Robinson, overcome severe depression, positive psychology

Overcoming Self-Criticism Through Humor and Failure

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on June 6, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

 

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”

― Gautama Buddha

sunsetI used to suffer greatly from a bad case of self-criticism,  in my teenage years, it was so severe that I could never ask a girl out on a date.  I feared that she’d say “no” and I’d end up spending the next week getting down on myself for my failure.

Finally, at age 17, I hit “threshold” and decided to get rejected by 10 girls in one day.  I figured the best way out of my prison of fear was to face it head on.

I promised myself that if I got 10 rejections; I’d treat myself to a trip to Hawaii. By setting it up that getting 10 rejections equaled my ticket to Hawaii, I hoped to sidestep getting down on myself for being rejected so many times. Continue reading →

Posted in Jonathan Robinson, Mood, Overcoming Anxiety, Self-criticism | Tagged experience, finding, fullest, Joonathan Robinson, joy, manage, overcoming self criticism, positive psychology

Positive Psychology Exercises

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on May 21, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

86543081What would it be like if you found out that you had a million dollars in a secret bank account, but you didn’t know it? Wouldn’t that be great?  Well, in a certain way you do.  You have enormous riches locked within you in the form of positive feelings—such as love, gratitude, compassion, and joy.  The problem is, most people haven’t known how to access these feelings.  Yet, the new field of Positive Psychology has developed simple exercises that can help anyone feel greater levels of happiness.

For those who don’t know about Positive Psychology exercises, they’re simple methods that have mostly been developed by psychologist Dr. Marty Seligman.  According to numerous studies, these quick methods can greatly boost your level of happiness.   Since we’re all trying to be happier, having a “technology” that’s been shown to really work is cause for celebration. People currently use very inefficient methods of being happier—such as trying to make a lot of money or have fewer wrinkles.   While such things work a smidgen, Positive Psychology exercises have been proven to work much, much better in creating feelings of true well-being.

You may be wondering, if these simple exercises work so well, then why don’t more people know about them?  The reason is that there is not a lot of money to be made in teaching Positive Psychology exercises.  You can make a lot of money selling pills—such as antidepressants—but there is very little money to be made teaching exercises that change people’s lives.

For better or worse, that’s my job

168855775I sell (for very little money I might add), a systematic course in teaching people the best and most powerful ways to quickly boost their level of happiness.  There are over 30 methods in my Deeper Happiness course that have been shown to boost people’s level of happiness, and most of them take under three minutes a day to do.   That’s great news.  It’s like learning you had a million dollars lying around in the bank, but you didn’t know it.

Let me give you a couple of really quick examples of what I mean.  One Positive Psychologyexercise is to do a Gratitude Journal.  By writing down three things you feel grateful for during each day, your level of satisfaction with your life will gradually rise.  To “turbo charge” your Gratitude Journal, you could include a sentence on how something about you helped make each of those good things happen. For instance, let’s say that one of the things you were grateful for was a good conversation with a friend.  To make that statement even more powerful, you could say how your open heartedness helped you to create that experience.

Science often helps us discover things that seem to defy logic.  It makes no sense that a 50 ton airplane can fly, but it obviously can.  Likewise, it makes no sense that a simple 2 minute Positive Psychology exercise typically brings more joy into your life than if you suddenly doubled your income. But that’s what numerous studies have indicated.    As I said, not knowing about the potential power of Positive Psychology exercises is like not knowing you have a million dollars in your bank account.

Now that you know that Positive Psychology exercises can truly impact your life, you have to figure out what, if anything, to do about it.  Most people—because they have been hypnotized by their culture, will continue to put all their hope into finding happiness through ineffective means.  They’ll hope that more money changes their life, or hope that the next relationship will magically make them fulfilled.  Such endeavors will surely keep them busy, but are unlikely to help them discover the treasure of positive feelings living inside them.

Other people will do such things as read books about how to be happier

stk161282rkeAlthough such books contain valuable information, virtually no one uses what they read from books in a systematic manner in their daily life.  It’s just too big of a jump.  What’s needed is a simple, almost automatic way to be reminded to use Positive Psychology exercises in daily life.

That’s why I created the Deeper Happiness daily audio program for learning and using such exercises. In the program, a person listens to a fun 15-minute talk each morning before they get to work that details a great Positive Psychology exercise. Then, their task is to use that simple exercise sometime during their day.   I created the program so that people could really incorporate these great exercises into their daily lives.  Most the exercises take only 2 minutes a day to do, and the supplied reminder cards help a person to remember to do the exercises.

The typical result of doing these simple techniques days after day is that your life feels more purposeful, fun, joyous, and meaningful.  Soon, you learn which methods really work amazingly well for you, and which don’t seem like a good fit.  Once you find simple ways to help you quickly overcome negative feelings and tune into positive feelings, your life will never be the same.  It will be like finally having complete access to that secret bank account of riches.  You can even get the first three Positive Psychology exercises from the Deeper Happiness program for free here.  You’ll be amazed at how well these simple methods can improve the quality of your life, health, and relationships.

Posted in How to Be Happy, How to Find Happiness, Inspire Me Today, Jonathan Robinson, Key to Happiness | Tagged experience, fullest, happiness, Jonathan Robinson, joy, life, love, manage, positive psychology

Everything You Know about Happiness Is Wrong

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on May 16, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

160619033You are living in a dangerous cult.  I mean it.  Of course, like most people in cults, you don’t think it’s dangerous—or that it’s even a cult.  This “cult” that you (and I) are living in is the hyper capitalist economic system of modern day life.

In this cult or cult-ure we’re part of, we’re hypnotized to believe certain things that are not really true.  For example, we’re conditioned to believe that if only we had more money, or the right relationship or less wrinkles—THEN we’d be a lot happier.  Studies prove that these ideas aren’t actually true, but we eventually start to believe them because we’re constantly bombarded with such messages.

Here’s a question that can determine if you’ve truly been indoctrinated into the capitalist cult.  Which of these two options do you think would make you happier?  Option one:  winning over a million dollars in the lottery.  Option two: becoming paralyzed from the waist down.  Which do you think would lead you to being happier after a year of time has passed?

If you think the obvious answer is winning the lottery, you’re wrong.  It means you’ve bought our cult’s basic dogma—that what happens to you determines your level of happiness.  Although such a notion is widespread and unquestioned in Western culture, scientific research does not bear this idea out.  People who are paralyzed and people who win the lottery are equally happy after a year of time has passed.

In the search for hypnotizedhappiness that we are all on, you can’t assume anything that you’ve heard.  Unfortunately, our culture is constantly pushing its ideas about finding the “good life” onto us, and that brainwashing does not necessarily have anything to do with being happy. After all, does Donald Trump look joyous to you? In the last twenty years, the average GDP of Chinese citizens has gone up 400%, and yet their average level of happiness has actually gone down.

In our culture, we’ve also been led to believe that having a lot of choice is a good thing.  There are over 24,000 items to choose from just in your local supermarket.  With the Internet, our range of choices has become virtually infinite.  The problem is we’ve been led to assume that the more choices we have, the richer and more satisfying our lives will become.  Yet, numerous studies show that our gluttony of choice mostly just adds to our level of stress–and makes us less contended with our lives.

In fact, contrary to cult doctrine, having a lot of money, good health, or a job you enjoy doesn’t truly lead to happiness.  Rather, research shows that we have it completely backwards.  Numerous studies indicate that it is being a happy person that leads to having more money, good health and a job you enjoy.  Highly fulfilled people end up making over $750,000 more during their lifetime than people who are unhappy.  Highly contented people also live an average of 8 years longer than the rest of us, and have half the level of divorce.

If the specifics of our lives (money, health, job, choice) don’t determine our level of happiness, what does?   Researchers have identified several factors.  First, part of our happiness is determined by our genetics.  Unfortunately, there’s nothing we can do about that.  Yet, much of our level of well-being is due to our attitude, our focus on relationships, and certain beliefs and behaviors that happy people tend to have.  Fortunately, many of these attitudes and behaviors can be easily learned.

166624595Here’s just one example.  Highly contented people tend to schedule time each week for activities they truly enjoy.  On the other hand, unhappy people tend to make excuses as to why they don’t have time for what they really like to do.  Here’s another example.  Happy people make being with friends and enjoying life a central priority in their life, whereas less contented folks make things like making money their main priority.

Here’s the problem.  How do you become a happy person while living in a cult (culture) that does not value what really leads to happiness?   It’s hard.   It requires going against the grain of what the people around you are doing.  It means you need to ignore the 500 or so advertising messages you get each day, and instead listen to the still, small voice inside.   In fact, that’s what happy people do a lot.  They spend quiet time in nature.  They surround themselves with people, books, and ideas that nurture their dream of a joyful, caring, and deeply fulfilling life.

Like you, I was conditioned to think that certain things would make me happy.  For better or worse, I got many of those things at an early age.  I got rich.  I wrote books that got me on Oprah and other national shows on numerous occasions.  Instead of feeling a sense of accomplishment, I felt like I always had to do something bigger and better in the future.  I was not a happy camper.  There was only one way out—and that was “in.”   As I studied the research on happiness, I learned that everything I’d been taught about how to be happy was basically not true.

It turns out 167344377that the American Dream is actually a repetitive, busy, and not too unpleasant nightmare.  I soon realized that always striving for more, always being busy, and constantly competing for recognition was not a path to greater peace of mind.  As I began to see through the brainwashing of Western culture, I began to notice what really made me happy.  What really made me happy wasn’t having bouncy hair, a big house, or a Mercedes.  It ends up it was little moments of depth and joy I could find in everyday life. Nowadays, I spend more time playing with my dog, watching sunsets, hanging out with my friends, reading great books, and meditating.

So your mission, should you decide to accept it, is to find out what actually makes you uniquely happy.   Assume you’ve been in a dangerous cult and you need to get free of its programming.  Ask questions, explore new ideas, and notice when your actual experience does not match up with beliefs and behaviors that have been forced on you from the cult we’re in.  To help show you the way, there is a certain group of people who tend to be very happy a lot of the time.  This “group of people” are kids under the age of six.  What do they do differently than adults?  They play more, they plan less, and they explore the present moment fully and completely.   That’s a good place to start on the ever-evolving road to happiness.

Posted in Being Present, How to Be Happy, How to Find Happiness, Jonathan Robinson, Key to Happiness | Tagged finding, fullest, happiness, inspire, Jonathan Robinson, joy, life

Pain and Pleasure List

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on April 15, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023
Woman getting pleasure from a bike ride

Woman doing housework in pain.What do you absolutely love to do? It need not be a big thing. Perhaps you really love to watch football, or maybe you really enjoy baking your own bread. Often, we get so caught up in living our life that we forget to take time for life’s simple pleasures. Many people find that their life is so full of responsibilities that they rarely take time for fun and adventure. If that sounds like you, then you’ll benefit by using the “Pain and Pleasure List.” The Pain and Pleasure List is a catalog of at least ten things you enjoy doing and a list of ten things you don’t particularly care for. It helps you clarify what really turns you on in life and what you do only because you have to – or think you should. While we all need to do things we don’t like from time to time, life is not meant to be a series of burdens and responsibilities. By having a Pain and Pleasure List, you’ll be able to make important changes in your life with a lot more ease.

Woman making a pain and pleasure list.The first step in using the Pain and Pleasure List is to simply create it. The singular act of writing down ten things you love to do and ten things you don’t care for can reveal a lot about your life. Recently, a client named James made his list while in my office. He had originally come to see me because of depression, stress at work, and problems with his wife. This was the list he created:

Ten Things I Don’t Like to Do

  1. Go to work.
  2. Market myself or my products.
  3. Clean the house.
  4. Cook.
  5. Be around disagreeable people.
  6. Spend time with my parents.
  7. Taxes and paying the bills.
  8. Give my wife a massage.
  9. Go shopping for clothes or gifts.
  10. Argue with wife.
Ten Things I Love to Do

  1. Ride my bike
  2. Be by myself, reading a good book.
  3. Play with the dog.
  4. Eat good food.
  5. Travel.
  6. Get a massage.
  7. Spend time in nature.
  8. Make love with my wife.
  9. Drive and listen to music.
  10. Watch a good football game.

You can write you own Pain and Pleasure List here.

After James made his Pain and Pleasure List, I had him estimate the number of hours every month he spent doing each activity. When he finished this part of the exercise, it was brutally clear why he was depressed, stressed, and messed-up with his wife. The total number of hours Man with bag on head obviously feeling emotional pain.on the “pain” side of the list was a whopping 215 hours per month. The total number of hours on the “pleasure” side of the list was a meager 32 hours a month. That’s almost a seven-to-one ratio of pain to pleasure. I’ve found that when the degree of pain as compared to pleasure rises above a five-to-one ratio, people dislike their life. In order to feel good again, such people need to spend less time doing “painful” activities, and more time doing what they enjoy.

The first key to changing your life and behavior is to be aware of what’s currently not working. If, after completing your own Pain and Pleasure List, you see a similar pattern to James’, then you’ll know you’ve been denying yourself too much. You need to put pleasurable activities at a greater level of importance in your life. Sometimes people think if they make pleasure a bigger priority, the rest of their life will fall apart. Not true. When we don’t have enough good times in our life, we become less capable and effective in our career and relationships. We pay a price. As we feel good more regularly, the rising sea of our emotions tends to lift the various “boats” of our life.

Woman displaying pleasure on  a car ride.Although less frequently, some people who complete the Pain and Pleasure List see a pattern of having too much pleasure in their life. They tend to avoid responsibilities and discipline at all costs. Unfortunately, this form of hedonism doesn’t work well long term. By avoiding difficult things now, people with this predilection often create problems in their finances and relationships later on. The key to having a successful life is to find the right balance of pain to pleasure. It must be a balance that works, not only in one’s current life, but it must also work long term.

Another way the Pain and Pleasure List can be useful is as a convenient reminder of what you really like to do. Sometimes, we get so caught up in the various “chores of life” that we forget to enjoy ourselves. By putting the Pain and Pleasure List in a place where you’ll see it often, it can softly help you to remember the direction you want to go. Ultimately, to change your life, you need to change individual behaviors. If there’s a lot of pain and little pleasure in your life, ask yourself the following two questions:

  1. Are there any activities on the “pain” side of the list that I can easily change, do less
    of, or have someone else do instead?
  2. Are there any activities on the “pleasure” side of the list that I can easily do more of,
    beginning with scheduling time for it in my life right now?

Woman enjoying a pleasurable bike ride.As you ask yourself these two questions, search your lists for answers you can immediately act upon. Then, take action. Schedule a fun activity into your busy week, or see if you can get someone else to do what you always hate doing. Even a small change can snowball into a major shift in your attitude and disposition. Let the Pain and Pleasure List be your caring companion—gently reminding you of the road to greater fulfillment.

Get started right now by downloading a blank Pain and Pleasure List here. And read more about living a happier life in Happiness Resources.

Posted in Healthy Relationships, How to Be Happy, How to Find Happiness, Mood

How to Relax – Instantly!

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on April 2, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

Woman Relaxing At a SpaIf your life is at all like mine, it’s both busy and stressful. Most people handle the onslaught of stress they face by taking periodic vacations to recover from their life. While vacations are a good idea, you can’t take one every time your life becomes hectic. In addition, taking a weekend or a week off to go to Hawaii doesn’t help you to know how to relax when you’re back in the rat race. What’s needed is a simple way to let go of stress and know how to relax that can be done while you’re still in the stressful situation—not five days later. That’s why I created the One-Breath Technique. In twenty to sixty seconds of doing this powerful method, you can experience how to relax bodily tensions, as well as let go of negative emotions and useless anxiety. It’s a wonderful gift to give yourself.

Woman using the One Breath Technique to RelaxI created the One-Breath Technique when I noticed how frequently something makes me impatient, uptight, or annoyed during the day. Without something to interrupt my stress, my minor upsets often snowballed into a momentum of negativity. Rather than using a technique that required taking several minutes away from the situation at hand, I saw the value of learning how to relax right in the moment. The One Breath Technique can be done almost anywhere and, with practice, won’t even be noticeable by others. Despite its brevity, it can effectively interrupt the build-up of stress and frustration that can so easily happen in modern day life.

Woman Taking a Moment to Relax her MindThe first step in doing the One Breath Technique is to become aware that you’re stressed, upset, or could benefit from a mini-relaxation break. Next, observe the location in your body that you feel the most tightness or discomfort. For many people, they feel stress most noticeably in their shoulders, their chest, or their stomach area. Some people feel tension in many parts of their body simultaneously. Wherever you feel stress the most, imagine inhaling pure, soothing air into that area. Breathe as deeply as you can, first filling up your abdomen with air, then your chest. Once you’ve taken in as much air as you can, hold your breath for ten seconds.

Woman stretching to lower her anxiety and stress levels.During the time that you’re holding your breath, attempt to tighten all the areas of your body that feel stressed. For example, if your shoulders are tight, tense them even more —perhaps by bringing them closer to your ears. If your stomach feels uncomfortable, tense the muscles in that area (while you hold your breath)—as if you’re preparing for someone to hit you in the belly. At the end of your ten count of tightening muscles and holding your breath, it’s time for you to fully relax. How to relax is key. Let go of your breath with a long, slow sighing sound (if you’re in a place where making a sound is okay). While you’re letting go of your muscles and your breath, think to yourself, “Let it all go,” or some other simple phrase that works for you. When you relax your muscles and your breath, you’ll notice a warm feeling of relaxation traveling through your body. Focus on the tingling warm sensations as they move through you. Notice if there are any parts of your body that still feel tight, and if so, try to let them go as well. Although it’s called the One-Breath Technique, you’re welcome to do it once or twice more if you need to, and if you have the time.

There are many minor variations you can do with this method to make it better meet your specific affinities and needs. For instance, you might want to visualize a relaxing scene immediately following exhaling your breath. Some people find it helpful to silently hum a favorite soothing tune as they learn how to relax more fully. As you practice this method, you’ll soon notice ways to adapt it to better meet your needs and preferences.

Once again, here are the steps for doing the One Breath Technique:

  1. Notice that you’re feeling stressed, and become aware of where in your body you feel
    tight.
  2. Slowly breathe in soothing air to the area you feel most tight—until you can’t inhale
    any more.
  3. When your lungs are full, hold your breath for ten seconds. During these ten seconds,
    tighten all the muscles in your body that feel tense, such as your shoulders, chest, and
    stomach area.
  4. After ten seconds, exhale with a sighing sound as you completely relax all your
    muscles. During the exhalation, think of a phrase such as, “Let it all go.” Feel the warm
    sense of relaxation energy as it moves through your body.
  5. Repeat if necessary, or if time allows.

Woman relaxing on a beautiful day.Part of the beauty of this technique is its simplicity. In less than a minute, you can interrupt your stressful reactions that can lead to a bad day, bad health, and ultimately, a bad time in life. Fortunately, because it is brief and can even be invisible to the people around you, there is no good reason not to use it. In fact, why not try it right now? I mean it. If you like it, perhaps you’ll get in the One-Breath habit. It’s one of the healthiest habits you’ll ever have. Right now would be an excellent time to begin… Once you’ve mastered that, check out all my other free resources.

Posted in Overcoming Anxiety, Relaxing

How to Be Filled With Energy

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on March 25, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

ways to get more energyHave you ever felt depressed and filled with enormous amounts of energy at the same time?  Probably not.  When we have a lot of energy, we both feel better and get more done.  Of course, we’re told that the way to greater vim and vigor is to eat right, exercise, and avoid harmful substances.  We know what we should do, but we often don’t have the energy or discipline to follow through.  If you’re like me, you wonder “are there any safe shortcuts to how to have more energy?”  Luckily, there are.  There are now a plethora of supplements in health food stores that can safely and effectively help you to get more energy.  Once you find how to get more energy in a way that works well for you, it’s like finding a magic pill that helps you feel healthier, happier, and more energized.  Who knows, you may even become motivated to eat better and exercise more often!

If you go to a health food store and ask about supplements  to get more energy, you’ll likely be overwhelmed by the number of products available.  After much trial and error, I’ve learned three things about how to get more energy in a way that feels good to your body. 161718759 First of all, it’s important to look at the ingredients in each of the bottles. Many energy supplements are really just caffeine-like derivatives that take a toll on your body.   Caffeine, Ma Huang, Ephedra, and Guarana are all very similar in that they stress your adrenal glands and ultimately leave you with less energy.   It’s better to look for products whose main ingredients are things like bee pollen, spirulina, wheat grass, amino acids, ginseng, algae, royal jelly, or vitamin B-12.

The second thing to know when looking for a supplement to get more energy is that different pills work for different people.  Just because your friend swears that Product X changed her life doesn’t mean it will have any effect on you.  It’s best to buy small amounts of several products and give each one a trial run to see which one works best.  In addition, you may need to try each supplement for a couple of weeks to notice what, if anything, it does for you.   Thirdly, there’s a tendency for your body to gain a “tolerance” for whatever you take.  This means that, over time, it has less effect on your body.  That’s why it may take more caffeine than it used to in order for you to feel really “buzzed.”  If you’ve tried several supplements, you can begin with the one that had the greatest effect, but periodically change to others when you feel you’re building up a tolerance.

Uptime to get more energyBearing all this information in mind, there are several supplements I can heartily recommend because of their ingredients and the consistently good results people report.  My personal favorite is something called Uptime.  Although it has a small amount of caffeine in it, it has plenty of nutritional goodies that more than make up for the fact that it contains a little caffeine.  If you’re a coffee drinker, definitely consider using Uptime as a healthier alternative.  If you can’t find it in your health food store, you can order it directly online (I have no financial ties to this company—or any products I recommend here).
get more energy with ultra energy plus
Another favorite is something called Ultra Energy Plus by the Rainbow Lite company.  This product is filled with good stuff, and contains no caffeine at all.  Although it doesn’t take effect as quickly as Uptime, it can give you a nice boost of sustained energy.  Think of it as a powerful food that blasts your body with vitamins.  For people who like to take only natural herbs instead of vitamins, there’s a product called Ginseng Energy Now.  It’s especially suitable for people who are very sensitive to supplements.

There are also various drinks you can buy to give your body a boost of energy.  Nowadays there are many places that offer a variety of fresh squeezed juices that are energizing and good for you.  Look for smoothies that have bee pollen, vitamin B-12, or a lot of “green stuff” added to them, or try some fresh wheatgrass juice.  A big smoothie sipped throughout the day can provide you with plenty of vitamins and sustained energy.  Experiment with what your local juice bar offers until you find one that tastes good and feels great.

how to get more energy and jump for joy The great thing about finding a Magic Pill or drink to get more energy is how easy it is.  No matter how lazy you are, you can always pop a pill into your mouth or drink some fresh juices. Although supplements are easy to “use,” their effect can be life transforming.  Many people don’t realize that the reason they feel depressed or unhealthy is due to a lack of nutrients.  I’ve seen clients in my therapy practice who literally change overnight by finding a supplement they really needed to take.  Once you  know how to get more energy in a way that feels good to your body, you’ll have a consistent way to support your body, mind, and spirit. With a little exploring, for under a dollar a day, you can find a supplement that can have a major impact on your life.  That’s a deal too good to refuse.

Posted in How to Be Happy, How to Have More Energy

The International Day of Happiness

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on March 19, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

UN-Pledge-international-day-of-happinessMarch 20th is the International Day of Happiness, which is sponsored by the United Nations.   They ask all participants to make the following pledge:

“I will try to create more happiness in the world around me”

It’s a nice pledge, and one that research shows has interesting ramifications.  Studies show that when we perform acts of kindness, it actually make us happier.  By trying to make other people happier, it gives us a lift.   It’s a win-win.   So why don’t we do acts of kindness and/or try to make others happier more often?  It’s an interesting question, and in exploring that question we can learn a lot about how to become happier in our own lives.

children know how to be happyI believe that happiness is our natural state.  Look at young kids.  They are happy a lot (unless they are in physical pain), so it can’t be something we need to learn “to do.”   Instead, we have to focus on what it is we are already doing that gets in the way of our natural joy, peace, and contentment.  Rather than just have this be a theoretical discussion, you can ask that question to yourself.  What do you think you do that gets in the way of you being happier?

From my years of being a psychotherapist, I’ve seen that most people do not have a really good answer to that question.  If they have an answer at all, it’s usually very general—and therefore not truly useful.   woman needing help with anxietyBut the truth is that you and I are doing specific things almost all the time that get in the way of being truly joyous—and most of us have no idea what those self-destructive habits are! We fall victim to bad habits like rushing, multitasking, worrying, or indulging in negative emotion patterns.   All these “inner” obstacles keep us from being happier—and they even keep us from attempting to make others happier.   Only by becoming aware of our inner obstacles to being happier or being kinder can we make a significant impact in our level of fulfillment.

Rather than become more aware of these inner obstacles we have to happiness, most people simply try to change the external events and situations of their life.  This works to a small extent, but usually not for long.  Our inner obstacles or shadow aspect of ourselves has a way of bringing us back down to a life of rushing, worrying, struggle, etc.  What can a poor soul do about this?  Fortunately, a lot.

create happiness even by faking itThe first step is to become acutely aware of what specific things you do that lead away from your natural state of happiness.  In my audio course, Deeper Happiness: One Month to a Lifetime of Greater Fulfillment, I have many simple methods for doing that.   But here’s one simple idea you can try:  On the International Day of Happiness, March 20th, try a one day experiment.   For one day, do your absolute best to be ridiculously happy.   If you need to, fake it till you make it.  While you’re at it, do your best to make others happy as well.  Then, notice what thought patterns, emotions, or daily habits get in the way of you being truly and consistently happy that day.

When I’ve done this one day experiment in the past, I’ve noticed I have habitual excuses for “putting off” happiness till sometime in the future.  For instance, I’ll think “I can take a moment to enjoy life as soon as I finish…”   Of course, there’s always more to do, so this way of thinking can lead one to never allowing a moment of pure enjoyment.  Other obstacles to being fully satisfied have also become very obvious when I’ve tried to be happy for a day.   For example, my tendency to feel self-pity or “poor me” when things don’t go exactly the way I want.  Indulging in such a feeling is a surefire way to interfere with greater happiness.   By becoming more aware of these tendencies in myself, I’ve been able to lessen their frequency and impact in my daily life.

Woman finding happinessIn my opinion, there is nothing more important in life than trying to be happy and add to the level of happiness in the world.  The good news is that, as a race, we’re currently pretty bad at being happy.  I say that’s good news because, with a little effort and experimentation, we’re bound to get better at it.  Fortunately, there are a lot of simple methods that can help us on the path towards deeper happiness.  For instance, the attitude that you’re a detective on the look out for what gets in the way of being happy is a good start.  I encourage you to keep that in mind on March 20th—the International Day of Happiness.  By experimenting with your own desire to be a more fulfilled person, you will also be helping others to reach their full potential.

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How to Stop Worrying About Money

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on March 7, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

Man worrying about moneyWith the tough economy and tax season upon us, a lot of people want to know how to stop worrying. People worry about a lot of things, but foremost amongst them is money. If the money you currently have could assume a human form and talk to you, what might it say? If you’re like most people, it would probably say something like this: “You never appreciate me. All you ever do is complain about how I’m never enough. You need to stop worrying about how I might let you down in the future, or might leave you. I don’t feel like you trust me at all. And after all I do for you! I’m always getting things for you, protecting you, entertaining you, and making your life easier–but do I ever get a heart-felt thank you? Nooooo!” … If we treated our mate the way we “relate” to money, he or she wouldn’t want to hang around us!

In order to learn how to stop worrying about money, it can be helpful to focus in a new direction from how we’ve been conditioned. Normally we’re always looking for more money as an antidote to the feeling that we don’t have enough. Yet, this constant seeking for more usually just leads to wanting even more—no matter how much we have. Fortunately, there is an antidote that can help us to stop worrying so much. The antidote to the “not enough disease” can be summed up in a single word—gratitude.

boy feeling gratefulThe ability to feel thankful for what we have right now is perhaps the greatest key for helping us learn how to stop worrying. By feeling grateful for the things in your life, a whole new energy and experience is created. People often pursue money for years just so they can have a few moments of feeling satisfied. Yet, the practice of gratitude can make us feel rich faster than any “get-rich-quick” scheme ever invented. After all, if you feel thankful for what you have, you’re immediately rich! But if you have millions and don’t appreciate it, then you’re eternally poor.

Perhaps you’re thinking it would be easy to feel grateful if you only had some more money. If only, if only – the curse of the modern mind. If you own a car, you are automatically in the top 7 percent of wealth in the world. If you don’t feel grateful for being in the top 7 percent of wealth, We live better than kinds didbeing in the top 2 percent won’t make much difference. The truth is that you and I live better today than kings lived just one hundred years ago! We’re blessed with inexpensive ways to enjoy music, read books, be entertained, talk to people on the phone, and even travel to distant lands. There’s a lot we can feel grateful for – if we don’t fall into the pothole of “if only” thinking.

I’ve learned that the discipline of gratitude begins by appreciating whatever you currently have – even if part of you doesn’t like it. In my own battle with the “not enough” trap, I learned some tools that immediately helped me convert my feelings of scarcity to feelings of abundance and thankfulness. One effective method is to simply ask yourself the question, “What could I feel grateful for?” This question is a great way to help any person learn how to stop worrying so much. When I began this practice, I came up with just intellectual answers. Yet over time, I’ve been able to tune into the actual feeling of deep gratitude for the many wonderful things in my life. Gratitude is like a muscle that needs to be exercised. The more I’ve focused on this question, the easier it has been to feel truly grateful, and less caught up in the trap of “if-only” thinking.

You may have already listened to the 3 free audio segments from my course “Deeper Happiness” (if not, you can get the audios for free here). The second of these audios offers another “tool” for helping to tap into gratitude during daily life. I won’t go into all of the details here, but many people report that this deceptively simple tool can have a dramatic effect on their level of gratitude. And remember, the more gratitude you feel, the more you have found the quickest cure for how to stop worrying.

Having a Plan B reduces worryA second way to stop worrying about money is to have a written Plan B. A Plan B is simply a blueprint of what you could do if you ever experienced money troubles. When I wrote down my Plan B, I realized I had over a dozen things I could do to bail me out of financial difficulties. Seeing these ideas on paper helped me to feel assured that, if bad times ever came, I could handle it. After all, I already had a plan. Worrying about money is a non-productive waste of energy. By feeling grateful for what you already have and having a back-up plan in case of difficulties, you can learn how to stop worrying about your finances. If you can do that, you’ll feel more relaxed, peaceful, and happy.

Posted in Gratitude, Overcoming Anxiety

How to Easily Manage Your Mood

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on February 25, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

Relaxing to musicWe all want to experience deeper peace in our lives, or simply have more joy. As a teacher of workshops on happiness, I’ve looked for quick ways to help people quiet their minds and/or enjoy more fun and play. Of the many different things I’ve tried, I’ve found one formula to be so simple and effective that I heartily recommend it to everyone. I call this method The Magical Playlist.

In essence, the Magical Playlist is simply an iTunes playlist of songs created for a specific purpose. By creating playlists dedicated to certain moods, you can easily have access to some of your favorite feelings — with hardly any effort. After all, your personal favorite songs have the ability to move you into your heart, uplift your spirit, and help you feel a depth of peace.

A man named Frank came to see me complaining of marital difficulties. As he entered my office, it was clear that he was very tense. He told me that his wife was fed up with him because of how stressed he was from his job as an air traffic controller. When he went home each evening, he’d spend the first three hours in front of the tube–just trying to unwind from his job. By the time he started to feel a bit relaxed and sociable, his wife was ready to go to bed. After asking him some questions, I learned that he enjoyed classical music. I suggested he make a playlist of his favorite classical works, and listen to a couple of songs in his car before entering his house each evening. When he returned to my office the following week, he told me that his wife reported, “You’ve become a new man.” Apparently, ten minutes of classical music helped Frank unwind much more effectively than three hours of TV. By the time he walked into his house each night, Frank was relaxed, refreshed, and emotionally available for his wife.

For many people, music is an easy and amazingly effective way to become centered. I’ve coached many of my clients to carefully choose the type of music to play before key events in their life. Before an important presentation, they might choose a favorite rock ‘n roll song. Before a romantic night on the town with their mate, they may choose a favorite love song. Before a time of meditation or prayer, they may choose some New Age or quiet piano music. By knowing what mood you’d like to “get into,” and choosing an appropriate piece of music to assist in that process, many people find they can successfully manage their moods much more effectively than ever before.

ipodOf all the possessions I own, my iPod is my most treasured. By listening to certain songs, I have almost immediate access to any feeling I want—without any cost, and no known side effects! When making certain playlists, I looked through all the songs I have on my computer, and carefully selected songs that have always had the most impact on me. Nowadays, I have special “mood altering” playlists categorized in five different ways: First, songs that put me in a fun and happy mood. In this category, I have songs like “Twist and Shout” and “I Wanna Hold Your Hand” by the Beatles. It’s hard to sing along with such songs without getting a smile on your face. Try it and you’ll see what I mean.

Second, I have a playlist dedicated to meaningful, mellow songs that help put me in my heart. In this category, I have songs such as Kansas’ “Dust in the Wind.” By putting a lot of heart-oriented songs in one playlist, I have a guaranteed way to calm down and feel contemplative when I feel so inclined. Third, I have a playlist of my favorite instrumental songs. Sometimes I just want to quiet my mind, and heartfelt instrumental music can often do the job even better than a time spent meditating.

BluesonStreetMy fourth “magical” playlist includes songs that make me feel energized and motivated. These are songs I like to shout to, like Bruce Springsteen’s “Born to Run,” or U2’s “Vertigo.” After shouting to a couple of songs on this playlist, I feel like I can tackle anything. Finally, I have a playlist of songs that make me feel all lovey and mushy inside. These songs are great to listen to before you spend time with your mate or a date.

After a five to ten minute vacation with some of your favorite music, your mind will be clearer and your soul more soothed. With hardly any effort at all, you’ll find that you can transcend a nasty mood—or simply a stressful day. You’ll end up being able to better handle whatever life throws your way. The hour or so it takes to put your initial playlists together will be amply rewarded by countless hours of peace, love, and energized enthusiasm. It’s an amazingly effective investment in your well-being…

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