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What Is a Healthy Relationship?

Young couple in love outdoorsEver since my book, “Communication Miracles for Couples” became a New York Times bestseller, I get asked a lot about how to have a healthy relationship.  First, it helps to define exactly what is a healthy relationship.  You’re only likely to hit a target if you know what you’re aiming for.  For me, a healthy relationship is where two people support each other in being happy together, as well as help each other to find happiness within themselves.

How to Build a Healthy Relationship

To build a healthy relationship, it helps to know certain methods for communicating effectively, as well as ways to make sure you maintain a good attitude. I’ve found that the right method can sometimes be the difference between a successful marriage and a devastating divorce or break-up. Having helped countless couples, I’ve found that the number one thing people have in a healthy relationship is a high degree of mutual understanding. By this, I mean that both people feel they are understood by their partner—even if their partner does not always agree with them.

How to Maintain a Healthy Relationship

man and woman riding bikes showing how to have a healthy relationshipHealthy relationships can be built by learning to better understand your partner’s exact needs—as well as helping them to enjoy life more. In my audio Home Study course, Deeper Happiness, I offer many simple methods for accomplishing these tasks. For example, I have a method that immediately helps your partner feel more loved by you. In this method, you simply ask your partner two questions. First, you ask them to remember a recent time they felt loved by you. Then you ask them, “What helped you to know that I really cared for you in that moment? Was it something I said, or maybe something I did for you, or was it perhaps a way that I touched you or looked at you?” People have very different ways that they feel loved, and if you know exactly what those things are, you can better love your partner in a way that they really “get.” If you consistently do things that make your partner feel loved, they will return the favor to you.

Another key to how to maintain a healthy relationship is to learn to be happy on your own. If you always expect your partner to make you happy, you do not have a healthy relationship. Fortunately, learning to be happy is a skill that can be learned—even if you only have a couple of minutes a day to practice. In my audio home study course, Deeper Happiness, I offer 30 cutting edge tools (that can be done in under two minutes a day) to help couples be happier and maintain a healthy relationship.

Man and woman in a healthy relationship enjoying each other's companyYou’ve likely heard that when you smile, the whole world smiles back, but when you’re in a bad mood, people reflect that rotten mood back to you. That’s why it’s so important to learn how to quickly feel better if you want to maintain a healthy relationship. To help you on your path of keeping your relationship healthy, I offer three free downloads from my course, Deeper Happiness, that can help you on your journey.