Setting and achieving goals is perhaps the most documented technique for manifesting what you want—efficiently and effectively. Since writing your goals is so powerful, it’s important to know precisely what you want to create so you will be pleased when you get it. If you don’t specify your dreams clearly enough, you can end up creating a nightmare. Sometimes people who write down their goals do create a life that is out of harmony. Why? Because their goals are all outward goals—such as making more money. Yet, manifesting more money is of little good if it’s created at the cost of your time, relationships, and peace of mind. Therefore, I think it’s best to create what I call “balanced goals.” Balanced goals are goals that have both an internal and an external element to them. For example, if you want more money, it can be helpful to know why you want it. If you realize it’s to have more peace of mind, then why not make a goal to create more peace of mind in your life while you make more money?
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create a balanced goal, you need to know two things. First, you need to know exactly what you’d like to manifest in the material world. Second, you want to identify what you hope to experience as a result of achieving your external goal. The easiest way to know what inner goal is appropriate for you, is to ask yourself the following question: “What feeling do I hope to experience as a result of achieving my external goal (such as more money, a house, etc.)?” Once you know what feeling or experience you ultimately want to have, make having more of that experience the focus of your inner goal. Below is an example of how you might go through the four-step process for achieving an inner goal. To better illustrate this process, I’ll use my interaction with a client named Sarah as an example:
1: Write down your inner goal. To know your inner goal, ask yourself: “What feeling do I hope to experience as a result of achieving my external goal?” When I asked Sarah this question, she eventually realized she wanted more comfort and security.
2: Write down the criterion that the goal has been adequately achieved. In the case of inner goals, I suggest people create an “intuitive scale” to measure how they’re doing. Ask yourself, “On a 1 to 10 scale (10 representing the best possible), how much of my inner goal (in Sarah’s case, how much comfort and security) do I currently have in my life?” When I asked Sarah this question, she said she was “about a 4.” Then I asked her, “Where do you want to be on a 1 to 10 scale, and by when?” She responded, “I’d like to be at a level 7 five months from today.”
3: Brainstorm steps you could take to help you move towards achieving what you ultimately want. Ask other people how they might go about achieving a similar goal. The more ideas you come up with, the better.
4: Do the activities on your brainstorm list in a logical order until you’ve achieved the goal–or need to create a new plan.
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that in the above example with Sarah, I had her create an internal way to measure her progress towards more security and comfort. You can always improve what you can measure. Although creating an “intuitive 1 to 10 scale” is not absolutely precise, I’ve found that people say it works surprisingly well in measuring their progress. All you need to do is rate, on an internal 1 to 10 scale, how you’re currently doing in the area you want to work on. Then, about once a week ask yourself, “How am I now doing (on a 1 to 10 scale)?” Hopefully, you’ll see gradual improvement. If not, it may mean you need to do different tasks in order to be more successful.
For the best results, keep your goals on a sheet of paper that you can see every day. About once a week or so, read over your plan and see how you’re doing. See if you can schedule any more steps from your plan into the upcoming week.
By taking small actions each week on her internal and external goals, Sarah was able to achieve both her goals. In fact, she achieved her internal goal (creating more comfort and security) much faster than she expected. Sarah reported to me that her newfound comfort with herself assisted her on her job, which eventually led to the increase in pay she desired. When people create balanced goals, they often work in a synergistic manner that leads to extraordinary results. As you set balanced goals, you’ll soon notice that your life feels more centered, balanced, and harmonious. With the right method, it is possible to experience both wealth and peace.
Armed with the secret information I am about to reveal to you, you will soon have incredible power in making friends and business contacts. Since these human technologies are so powerful, I must first give you some warnings as to how to use them. Please don’t use the ideas I’m about to divulge as a way to manipulate people. If you do, people will eventually see through your charade. Instead, consider these tools for connecting with people as a way to extend your good, caring intentions. If you use these methods with good intentions, you and the people you connect with will be amply rewarded. 
Perhaps the most important thing a human being can learn is how to quickly let go of negative thought patterns and emotions and quickly return to the peace and love that’s hidden behind our turbulent minds. Once you can do this well, everything in your life changes. In my exploration of how doing this effectively, I’ve tried a lot of things. One of my absolute favorite ways to quickly return to a place of peace (after being upset) is to use something called “The Sedona Method.” What follows is a mini-course on the Sedona Method. If you try this out and like it, I recommend that you get the book “The Sedona Method,” so you can get a better understanding of this truly effective and simple technique. 
I’ve been reading recently about how important a good night’s sleep is for feeling happy during the day and being productive in life. Unfortunately, about 30% of Americans suffer from chronic insomnia and/or sleep deprivation. In our fast paced world, many people try to do with as little sleep as possible, but then end up suffering emotional and health effects from getting too little sleep.
It’s that time of the year again to make resolutions. Instead of making them and then breaking them like most people do, why not put some punch behind your resolutions? I helped invent a method that practically guarantees your resolutions will be kept. The technique, which I call the Integrity Contract, helps people stay motivated when the going gets tough. After all, it is only people who are consistent over a long period who ultimately succeed in life
Once you have an idea of what you’d like to experience during the Holidays, your next step is to figure out creative ways to avoid what you don’t like about Christmas. For example, if you don’t enjoy running around buying a lot of presents, then don’t. Most people ask themselves the wrong question when it comes to planning their Christmas. Subconsciously, they think, “What should I do now that it’s the Holiday Season?” If you “should” all over yourself, you’ll never enjoy Christmas. Instead, it’s better to ask yourself, “What would I love to do to spread joy and good cheer this time of year?” Listen to your own unique answer to that question. By following your heart, you’ll feel the joy of
Plan ahead for something that you’d truly like to do. If you’re not spending the Holidays with your family, call some friends and see if they’re available. Perhaps you can create a meal together, play a fun board game such as Pictionary or Monopoly, or simply have a meaningful conversation. In my book The Little Book of Big Questions, I offer readers over 200 questions that can spark lively conversations and help keep the Spirit of Christmas alive.
With Thanksgiving upon us, I thought it was a good idea to blog about giving thanks and the power of gratitude. In my book 
From Bear’s inspiration and the wisdom of many others
Once you have used this method for awhile, you can even use it to begin to value things that are unpleasant. In the example above, getting cut off by an aggressive driver was not my idea of a good time. Yet, if I’m doing my “thank you” mantra, I’m more likely to see how such an event can serve me. From a higher state of mind, I can see that this driver is helping me learn patience, compassion, and forgiveness—three things I’m not very good at. Fortunately, there are many drivers and people who are willing to help me learn this lesson! Thank you God for all that help.
Too much to do, and not enough time to do it. Your boss yells at you for something that wasn’t even your fault; by the time you make it home, you’re fed up and stressed out. You slam the door, and then walk past your partner without saying a word. Your mate asks you about your day and why you slammed the door. Just the fact that they say anything to you makes you even more annoyed. You tell them, “I didn’t slam the door. There’s nothing wrong. Why do you always have to question me?” You spend the rest of the evening upset.