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The Five Questions of Success

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on May 10, 2014 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

The-Five-Questions1If someone asked me to describe in four simple words how they could achieve wealth, health, and happiness, my answer would be easy: ask the right questions for success.  When we ask ourselves good questions, it leads us to make better decisions as to where and how to spend our time.  When we fail to ask the right questions, we can easily fall prey to mechanical routines, other people’s goals, and a life of unhappiness.  When it comes to taking charge of your time and your life, asking the right questions can be the answer you’ve been looking for.

I created a list of five questions that seemed the most valuable in gently guiding people back to the life they truly desired.  I have found that answering these questions once a month can be an amazingly efficient way to create the life you really want. When answering these questions, it’s best to say your answers out loud to a mate, friend, or co-worker. Another option is to write down what you have to say in a journal.  Somehow, saying the answers out loud or writing things down has more impact than simply thinking them in your head.

For each of the five questions that follow, I give a brief description of why it can be useful to ask yourself—or those you love—this question once a month.

1) What can I do this week to bring more fun and/or meaning into my life?

As adults, most of us get lost in daily routines, problems, and plans.  Yet, as children, life was very different.  We’re not born into this world as planners and problems solvers, but rather as bundles of playful energy.  This question can help remind you to schedule something each week to bring fun and/or meaning into your life.  It will help provoke your thinking as to what you currently find fun or meaningful, and help you keep these things as priorities in your life

2) What could I feel grateful for in my life?

This may seem like a strange question to get your life in order, but it’s important to remember what is going great in your life.  If you focus only on what’s wrong with your life, you’ll always be thinking about problems.  Part of living a successful life means focusing on what’s going well, and feeling grateful for how blessed you are.

3) How can I use the gifts I’ve been given to better serve people?

If you want to make a lot of money, get good at giving people what they want.  If you want love, become skillful at caring for people.   Whatever you want in life, you can receive it by becoming good at serving people.  This question will help you to consistently ponder how you can do this more effectively.

4) Is there anything I’m doing that is hurting myself, other people, or steering me off course?

When planes fly to a destination, they are of course over 90% of the time.  However, they almost constantly correct their course, so they end up where they’re supposed to be.  We need to do likewise.  When people make mistakes, they often spend a lot of time in blame, self-pity, or distraction.  That just makes matters worse. Instead, what we need to do is quickly realized when we’re off course, and immediately take the actions necessary to get back on track

5) What would be good to do to create more balance, harmony or growth in my life?

To answer this question, it helps to access your intuition, or still, small voice inside.  Perhaps there has been something you’ve been avoiding, and this question will help you realize it’s time to move forward.  Whenever possible, try to be specific with your answer and the new action(s) you plan to take.  Insights are helpful, but only changes in actual behavior are likely to lead to the results you desire.

QAimagesThese five questions are an easy, quick, and powerful way to gain important insights that will help you to plan your time wisely.  Rather than waiting until a problem is big, these questions will help you to handle things when they’re small and easily handled.  By writing your answers in a journal, or taking turns answering these questions with a friend, you can help each other create the life you truly desire.

Posted in Being Present, Goals, Key to Happiness | Tagged experience, fullest, happiness, how to be happy, Jonathan Robinson, life, manage

The Joy of Peak Moments

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on March 25, 2014 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

monks_roller_coasterWhy do people travel half way around the world to visit a place such as Disneyland, pay $125 to get in, and stand in line for an hour for a three minute ride?  Because, as human beings, we crave peak moments.  The desire for an intense, special, extraordinary experience is one of our deepest desires.  That’s one of the major reasons why we like sex, falling in love, winning a big game, and weddings.  Yet, peak moments need not be reserved for such major events.  You can learn to create them in daily life with people you care about.  Once you learn the skill of creating special times for other people, your relationships will never be the same.  People will want to know you, do business with you, and even marry you because you know how to create a sense of aliveness wherever you are. There are four key concepts that can help you create more peak moments with your friends, mate, co-workers, and family. Continue reading →

Posted in Being Present, Gratitude, Inspire Me Today, Jonathan Robinson, Key to Happiness, Positive Psychology | Tagged experience, finding, happiness, Joonathan Robinson, joy, positive psychology

How to Quickly Find Peace Using “The Sedona Method”

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on March 7, 2014 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

sedonaPerhaps the most important thing a human being can learn is how to quickly let go of negative thought patterns and emotions and quickly return to the peace and love that’s hidden behind our turbulent minds.  Once you can do this well, everything in your life changes. In my exploration of how doing this effectively, I’ve tried a lot of things.  One of my absolute favorite ways to quickly return to a place of peace (after being upset) is to use something called “The Sedona Method.” What follows is a  mini-course on the Sedona Method.  If you try this out and like it, I recommend that you get the book “The Sedona Method,” so you can get a better understanding of this truly effective and simple technique. Continue reading →

Posted in Being Present, Mood, Positive Psychology Exercises, Relaxing | Tagged finding, happiness, inspire, Jonathan Robinson, positive psychology, relaxing

“Find Happiness Now” My New Book

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on February 25, 2014 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

find_happiness_now (1)While in school, John Lennon of the Beatles was asked by his teacher what he wanted to be when he grew up.  He said he wanted to be happy.  His teacher told John that he did not really understand the question. John Lennon told his teacher that he did not really understand Life!   In fact, what we all really want is to be happy, but we’re taught that happiness comes from being successful—such as having a lot of money. Yet, recent research shows it’s the other way around:  success comes from being truly happy.  In fact, happy people make over $750,000 more dollars in their lifetime than unhappy people.  In addition, they raise happier kids, live 9 years longer, and have half the rate of divorce of the “normal” population.

Fortunately, extreme happiness (or joy or fulfillment if you prefer) can be learned—if you know the right secrets.  Best of all, it need not take a long time to learn.  In my new book, “Find Happiness Now,” I reveal the most powerful and practical methods for creating more happiness in your life.  In fact, most of the methods in the book can be done in under 2 minutes a day—yet their effect can change your life.

Many people struggle with stress, anxiety and depression—but they don’t need to.  I certainly know about depression.  In fact, depression not only runs in my family–it practically gallops!  Yet, by interviewing some of the happiest people on Earth (the Dalai Lama, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra and 35 others), I’ve learned simple ways to go from stressed-out to blissed-out in under a minute.  You can too by picking up a copy of “Find Happiness Now.”  Don’t put off the happiness you deserve any longer.  Instead, Find Happiness Now at Amazon.com or your local bookstore…

 

Posted in Books, How to Find Happiness | Tagged book, finding, happiness, inspire, Jonathan Robinson, joy, life, manage

How to Create a Deep Intimate Experience with a Loved One

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on February 10, 2014 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

Love coupleIn my book The Little Book of Big Questions I have a chapter called “The Spiritual Intimacy Experience.”  It consists of fifteen questions partners can ask each other in order to develop a deeper connection. I received many letters from people stating that answering these questions with their mate led to the most profound experience of intimacy they had ever had.

Since Valentine’s Day is coming up, I thought it timely to give you this method for quickly deepening your level of intimacy with a mate or a friend. Continue reading →

Posted in Being Present, Inspire Me Today, Positive Psychology | Tagged happiness, how to be happy, Jonathan Robinson, joy, life, love, partner

Top 10 Tips for Great Sleep…

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on January 28, 2014 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

insomniaI’ve been reading recently about how important a good night’s sleep is for feeling happy during the day and being productive in life.  Unfortunately, about 30% of Americans suffer from chronic insomnia and/or sleep deprivation.   In our fast paced world, many people try to do with as little sleep as possible, but then end up suffering emotional and health effects from getting too little sleep.

In order to get a good night’s sleep, I’ve created a simple guide called “Ten Tips for a Good Night’s Sleep.”   By following its guidelines, my hope is that you’ll experience a better quality of sleep each night, as well as more productive and happier days due to having rested well.   Feel free to forward this on to people you care about who might want to improve their quality of sleep.   By resting well each night, you’ll be in good shape to handle whatever life throws at you….

Ten Tips for a Good Night’s Sleep:

  1. Make your bedroom conducive to sleep:  people sleep best in cool, dark, and quiet environments.   Use a sleep mask or whatever is necessary to create as dark a room as possible.
  2. Create a sleep inducing routine: try taking a bath or shower before bed, or read a book, or some other non-stressful activity before going to bed.
  3.  Avoid alcohol, caffeine, nicotine and energy drinks:  caffeine can keep you awake even 6 to 8 hours after it’s ingested, so be especially careful about “hidden” caffeine in soda, chocolate, tea, and pain relievers.
  4. Know how to use the light at night:  if possible, avoid highly lit screens an hour before going to bed, such as looking at a computer screen.  If you read before going to bed, make the light a little dim.
  5. Keep a consistent sleep schedule:  people sleep better when they go to sleep and wake up at roughly the same time each night and day.  Try to sleep an amount of hours that truly works for you (8 is recommended).
  6. Nap before 5pm, or not at all: if you like naps, try taking a nap for less than 30 minutes, and make it before 5pm.  If you still have trouble falling or staying asleep, try not napping and see how that affects your sleep.
  7.  Don’t eat a big evening meal: finish dinner several hours before you go to sleep, don’t eat anything an hour before bedtime, and avoid foods that can cause indigestion.
  8. Exercise early in the day:  While exercise during the day helps people to have a good night’s sleep, don’t exercise at least 3 hours before going to bed.
  9. Explore ways to quiet your mind: you can’t quickly stop a fast moving car; nor can you quickly stop a fast moving mind.  Therefore, have a way of relaxing and dealing with stress during your day—before your mind builds up too much momentum.
  10.  Avoid stimulating movies or TV before bed:  Emotionally intense movies or shows can make it very hard to fall asleep for a couple of hours afterwards.   Therefore, avoid such stimulation at least an hour before going to bed..

..and a Bonus Tip: Use what seems to work for you through trial and error:  this can include supplements such as melatonin or “Midnite or Valerian, or things specific to you.

 

Posted in Being Present, Mood, Overcoming Anxiety, Relaxing | Tagged happiness, inspire, Jonathan Robinson, joy, life, love, manage, sleep

How to Make New Year’s Resolutions that Work

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on December 26, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

resolutions-you-can-keepIt’s that time of the year again to make resolutions.  Instead of making them and then  breaking them like most people do, why not put some punch behind your resolutions?  I helped invent a method that practically guarantees your resolutions will be kept.  The technique, which I call the Integrity Contract, helps people stay motivated when the going gets tough. After all, it is only people who are consistent over a long period who ultimately succeed in life

In order to make consistent progress towards one’s goals, we need some form of immediate pain to occur if we fail to take appropriate action. If every time you failed to exercise three times a week you cut off a finger, you’d be a lot more consistent!  Since no sane person would ever do that, you need to find an immediate pain you would be willing to give to yourself if you fail to act in beneficial ways.  After much trial and error, I found a solution that worked. In the last fifteen years, I’ve taught the Integrity Contract method to thousands of people, and the results have been astounding. Here’s the essence of the technique:

Write a contract with yourself that states all the precise actions you’re willing to commit to do during the following week. Then write a statement that says, “For each of the items on this contract I fail to do by one week from today, I agree to rip up $2.”  Finally, sign your contract, date it, and place it in a place you’ll see it every day. That’s it. Here’s an example of a simple contract:

resolutions

“During the next week, I will exercise 3 times for a minimum of forty minutes. I will read a minimum of sixty pages from the book I got on investing. I will meditate for at least twenty minutes each day. For each task I don’t complete by January 7th, I will rip up $2.”
There are several reasons why this method is so effective. First, there is a clear proclamation of what you intend to do, and by when you intend to do it. Normally, people have a lot of lofty thoughts about what they could do to improve their life (aka New Year’s Resolutions), but these thoughts soon slip away. With the Integrity Contract method, you’ll have a visual reminder of what you’re committed to do. Second, with this technique, you’ll experience immediate pain if you fail to keep your word. Since your brain is always trying to avoid immediate pain, it will do its best to complete what’s on the contract.

As far as I’m concerned, it’s fine to not complete everything on your contract–as long as you rip up the money for the tasks you don’t finish. I’ve seen that, as long as people are willing to rip up money for failing to complete their contract, the method eventually works. Maybe not the first or second week, but by the third week you’ll find your mind screaming at you to complete whatever you wrote down.

Below is another example of how such a contract looks:

I, Jonathan, agree to do the following over the course of the next week:

a) Call five potential clients about my new seminar.
b) Wash my car, and put an ad in the paper to sell it.
c) Ask a friend to read my latest article and get their feedback.
d) Start a savings account to save money for a vacation to Europe.

For each of the above items I fail to complete by 5:00 p.m. next Thursday, I agree to rip up $2.

(date)                    (signature)________________________

Then put the contract in a place where you will see it daily. Bathroom mirrors are good. So are car dashboards. At the end of the week, evaluate how you did. If you did not complete any items on your contract, no matter what your excuse, tear up the appropriate amount of money.

Think of how quickly you could turn your goals into a reality if you made progress on them each week. Let this year be a year in which you keep your resolutions and your promises to yourself.  People who have the patience to slowly but surely make progress on their goals are the people who succeed in life.

As an added way to make sure you get support to turn your New Year’s resolutions and dreams into reality, I am offering a Free teleconference call on January 2nd.
It’s called “The Best Ways to Increase Happiness

telesminar-signup-bannerLastly, feel free to pass this blog on to your friends and family.  Wouldn’t it be great if they also started the New Year off on the right foot?  Then, you could support each other towards making 2014 an amazing year of growth, love, and joy.  By signing up for my free preview call and/or signing up for my “Happiness Through Great Relationships” Course, you’ll be giving your friends and family an opportunity to make 2014 their best year yet.

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Posted in Healthy Relationships, How to Find Happiness, Positive Psychology | Tagged experience, finding, happiness, how to be happy, inspire, Jonathan Robinson, life, manage, positive psychology

How to Really Enjoy the Holiday Season

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on December 10, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

christmas-‘It was the week before Christmas and in my own house I was frantic and hurrying, and felt like a louse. That was five years ago. That day I vowed I would never again get sucked into the hyped up of “Christmas Spirit.” Instead of running around, fighting traffic, and losing my temper with store clerks, I decided I would do whatever it takes to really enjoy the holidays.  After all, it’s supposed to be a time of celebration and spiritual renewal.  Why not make it into one?  Of course, if you’re at all like I was, you’re going to have to change how you “do Christmas” if you ever hope to truly enjoy yourself.  I’ve found that four simple keys can help people turn their hurried Holidays into heavenly Holy days.

First, try to remember the original purpose of the Holiday Season. Can you remember a Christmas memory from your childhood that was filled with joy, comfort, and love?  That’s really what we all want to experience during the Holidays.  Yet, sometimes it seems we’re being led down a fast flowing river that only leads to stress, insecurity, and even sadness.  By having a clear picture of what a truly happy Holiday Season would be like, you have a fighting chance to create what you want.

XthmasOnce you have an idea of what you’d like to experience during the Holidays, your next step is to figure out creative ways to avoid what you don’t like about Christmas.  For example, if you don’t enjoy running around buying a lot of presents, then don’t.  Most people ask themselves the wrong question when it comes to planning their Christmas.  Subconsciously, they think, “What should I do now that it’s the Holiday Season?”  If you “should” all over yourself, you’ll never enjoy Christmas.  Instead, it’s better to ask yourself, “What would I love to do to spread joy and good cheer this time of year?”  Listen to your own unique answer to that question.  By following your heart, you’ll feel the joy of
Christmas, and enliven the Spirits of those you love.

A third way to keep the Spirit of the Holiday’s alive is to give a present to yourself.  I don’t mean another sweater or necktie.  I mean something that will help you to experience the joy, peace, and sacredness of life.   Last year, my partner and I spent three days in Yosemite in the middle of December.  Leaving the craziness of city life for the grandeur of nature was the best present possible for both of us.  This year we plan to go to a desert resort.  As we sink into a Jacuzzi bath while listening to Mozart, we’ll be sure to reminisce about the madness we left behind back home.  What would be some treat you could give to yourself that would add meaning, joy, and relaxation to your winter season?  Schedule it in now, before you get too swept up in the Christmas rush.

Lastly, to have a truly Merry Christmas or Happy Hanukah

catsPlan ahead for something that you’d truly like to do.   If you’re not spending the Holidays with your family, call some friends and see if they’re available.  Perhaps you can create a meal together, play a fun board game such as Pictionary or Monopoly, or simply have a meaningful conversation.  In my book The Little Book of Big Questions, I offer readers over 200 questions that can spark lively conversations and help keep the Spirit of Christmas alive.

Perhaps around a Christmas dinner you can ask your friends and family questions such as:

  1. What’s your favorite Christmas (or Hanukah) memory?
  2. What was one of the most special moments you experienced this past year?
  3. What are you truly grateful for in your life right now?
  4. What was the worst Christmas gift you ever received?
  5. What gives you a real sense of joy in life?

Asking questions like these to those you love can help bring intimacy and a sense of the sacred back into the Holiday Season.  Your fondest Christmas memories are probably not of presents you’ve been given, but of the special times you’ve spent with people you cared about.  Having a really good conversation with a friend or family member can be one of the best “gifts” you ever receive.

Although advertisements try to convince us otherwise, the Holiday Season is not a time of ease and joy for most of us.  If you plan to have a good Christmas, you need to be deliberate about creating a sacred time with yourself and/or the people you care about.  By following your own heart, and keeping true to the original purpose of the Season, you can make this your best Holiday ever.

Posted in Gratitude, Gratitude List, Inspire Me Today | Tagged enjoy, experience, finding, happiness, holiday, inspire, Jonathan Robinson

How to Never Argue Again

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on November 15, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

kids arguingAs a psychotherapist, I often counsel couples who frequently argue. Early in my career, I tried to help these people with communication techniques aimed at helping them be more open with each other. Yet, it rarely worked. They would simply forget the method and continue with their verbal attacks. When I realized couples behave like hurt infants when they get into a fight, I asked myself, “What helps crying infants to feel better?” The answer was obvious–they like to be held. As parents gently hold their baby, the baby soon feels better. Before you know it, the infant is giggling and happy. I wondered if a similar approach might work with adults. After much trial and error, I found something that works even better than I expected. I call it “The Spoon Tune.”

One of the great things about the Spoon Tune is how easy it is. When we are upset, we do not have the capacity to do anything complicated. Luckily, the Spoon Tune has just two simple steps to it. First, at the earliest sign of upset, lie down with your partner in “spooning” position. Spooning is the way in which many couples sleep. It consists of having one person’s front side hugging the other person’s backside. Couples can also “spoon” standing up if they are in a place where they cannot lie down, or there is no place to do so. Although holding your partner in this manner is hard to do when you are upset, direct yourself to do it. Sometimes I think to myself that I have a choice between spooning for four minutes and feeling fine or staying upset and ruining the rest of the day. When I clearly see that those are my two options, I begin spooning.

Next, spooningwhile in a spooning position, breathe in unison with your mate. Generally, it is best for the bigger partner to follow the breath of the smaller partner. When the smaller person inhales, the other partner should inhale. When the smaller partner exhales, the other should exhale. Hold each other and breathe in unison like this for at least four minutes. Do not say anything. As soon as your mind wanders, focus once again on breathing in unison with your partner.

No matter how upset you are

At the beginning of this simple exercise, you will find yourself quickly calming down. The combination of being in the spooning position and breathing together puts people back on the same wavelength. When you share energy in this way, it creates a feeling of safety and connection at a very deep level. Although your mind may be racing and storming, your bodies and souls cannot help but connect. By the end of a few minutes, you may not even remember what you were upset. At the very least, you will feel more connected and safe, and are much better able to work things out without hurting each other. Oftentimes, the “issue”, which seemed so big just minutes before, will have become totally unimportant.

lionsOnce you begin the Spoon Tune, no talking allowed. If possible, find a place to lie down together. If that is not possible “spoon” standing up. The key to doing this method successfully is to breathe together. As you breathe together, try to focus on and be present with each breath. Use your breath as a meditation. By focusing on your breath as it goes in and out in rhythm with your partner’s breath, you will feel more peaceful, safe, and connected, spoon for at least three minutes.

Once you are done spooning, you have a couple of options.  You can simply forget about whatever led to the upset and go about your business, or, if you feel it’s necessary, you can talk things over with your partner.  If you need to work something out, you will be in a much better frame of mind to do so.

You need not wait until you are upset to use the Spoon Tune. In fact, it is a great way to connect with your partner anytime. Many couples find it to be an easy and satisfying way to unwind after a stressful day. It can also be a very effective way to connect with your partner before making love. The hardest thing about this method is remembering to use it. Make an agreement that either you or your partner can ask for a “spooning” if you feel like your tempers are starting to get the best of you. Be on the lookout for times when you or your partner begin to get upset, or you both feel stressed. In order to use the Spoon Tune correctly the first time you get angry at each other, it is a good idea to try a practice run when you are not upset. Once you use it the first time and see how well it works, you will be hooked.

 

Posted in Anger, Being Present, Gratitude, Healthy Relationships, How to Be Happy, How to Find Happiness, Jonathan Robinson | Tagged experience, finding, happiness, how to be happy, Jonathan Robinson, partner, positive psychology

Letting Happiness In

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on November 5, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

jump-for-joyI recently took an online course called “Awakening Joy.” It was quite good, maybe even as good as my own online course called “Deeper Happiness.”(Of course, it did cost five times as much as my course!) Even though it was expensive, it was worth it to me because I learned something valuable. What I learned from this course was really just one new thing — which I plan to share with you in a moment. Yet, even if you learn just one new thing from a course or a workshop, it is still very much worth it. After all, that one new “thing” will potentially be able to affect you for the rest of your life. If something you learn ends up having practical value to you for the rest of your life, then its value is priceless.

 

What I learned from the Awakening Joy course was the importance of allowing time for positive moments in one’s life. Being that I am a so-called “happiness expert,” I already knew the importance of allowing time for positive feelings. Yet, as I watched myself throughout the day, I noticed something interesting. In the midst of sweet moments or intimate moments with a friend—or simply moments of deep peace—I would often think of what I have to do next on my “to do” list. Then, I would curtail my joyful experience and do whatever I felt compelled to do. After watching this a few times, I realized I was ripping myself off from experiencing more truly joyful moments.

dog on lapFor example, today I was playing with my dog and we were both having a great time. Then, when she was done with playing, she came over to cuddle with me in my lap. We cuddled for a moment, and I enjoyed the feeling of petting her and feeling my deep love for her. Then after a minute, I had the thought, “What do I need to do next?” Of course, my “list” is never done, so there were plenty of things to do, but why did I need to curtail such a sweet moment so quickly? In fact, I did not have to, but I realized I have been trained by our culture to always be productive—even at the expense of hanging out with more moments of love, intimacy, and joy. Can you relate to this?

Author Gay Hendricks calls this phenomenon the “Upper Limit Problem”

When we are feeling good, we often will stop what we are feeling and look for some problem or distraction to occupy our mind and emotions. It is as if we have an internal thermostat ready to kick in with negativity or worry anytime our internal temperature (positive feelings) get too high. As a psychotherapist, I have noticed this phenomenon in couples that sabotage a relationship when it is going really well, or people who sabotage a business just when they are starting to make a lot of money. Yet, once I saw how it manifested in the little moments of my daily life, I knew it was important to watch out for.

dog kissSo having seen my own tendency to start thinking of my “to do” list in the midst of positive emotions, I have taken steps to go against it. Nowadays, when I see that I am curtailing a sweet and/or intimate moment, I try instead to stay with my positive experience. I take a deep breath and remind myself; nothing is more important than joyful moments.  I attempt to “hang out” with such feelings until they naturally drift away.

This simple little practice has added immensely to the quantity of joyful moments I have in my life. If you can relate to my experience, then I challenge you to allow more time for your own positive feelings. Notice what you do to curtail such moments, and once you “catch” yourself in the act, take a deep breath and allow yourself to simply BE.  Your partner, your pets, and your joyful heart will thank me…

Posted in Being Present, How to Find Happiness, Inspire Me Today, Jonathan Robinson, Positive Psychology | Tagged experience, finding, happiness, how to be happy, Jonathan Robinson, joy, life, manage, positive psychology

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