Secret #1 for Joyful Relationships: Make Your Partner Or Friends Happy to See You. I have a Golden Retriever that virtually everyone loves. One reason she is so popular is that, the moment she sees anyone, she runs up to them and excitedly greets them. She makes everyone feel totally special and appreciated. People love feeling loved and special. If you make people feel loved and special, they will be very happy to see you. If people are happy to see you, your own happiness will get a boost. It’s that simple. So when you first see your partner or your friend, go up and excitedly lick their face. Just kidding. Yet, it’s a good idea to smile and give them a hug—or whatever is your way of expressing that you’re excited to see someone you care about. Secret #2: Do an Act of Kindness Studies show that doing an act of kindness for a stranger or a friend is the fastest way to boost your own level of happiness. It’s a win-win. You feel better, they feel better, and there’s a bit more kindness in the world. It need not be a big act of kindness. You can simply say something you appreciate, buy a small gift, or give your friend a shoulder massage. As I once said on the Oprah show, “kindness is like chocolate; it’s addictive. Once you see that it makes your life better, it’s easy to keep it going.” Secret #3: Practice Play and You More (humor) If you watch kids, they play and laugh a lot. Four year olds who hang out with each other make playing the basis of their relationship. As adults, we sometimes forget about the power of laughter and play. We don’t even “play” tennis. Instead, we compete at tennis. But play is a natural and joyous way of being with someone you care about. If you let more play and humor into your marriage or friendships, you’ll feel both closer and more joyous. So get out the board games, beer, funny movies or whatever helps you to play, and enjoy the fruits of fun and silliness. So that’s an appetizer. I hope you’ll join me on my call in which I go into the full 10 secrets for creating joyful relationships. By signing up for the “deeply happy” telesummit, you’ll get a chance to listen to many happiness experts describe tools and ideas to add even more joy to your life…You can sign up for that by clicking here: www.deeplyhappy.com
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How to Let Go of Negative Emotions
When clients come into my office, they describe many types of problems. Yet, whatever their situation, they almost always complain that they feel stuck in feelings of anger, sadness, fear or hurt. In order to help my clients, I teach them something called The Sensation Meditation (SM). This meditation guides people to focus on their negative feelings in a specific manner. By helping people fully feel their emotions without distraction, this meditation helps people move through “stuck” feelings into a place of healing. When people finish using this simple three minute technique, they frequently report that their negative feelings have vanished, and that their body feels relaxed, peaceful, and at ease.
The first step in doing the Sensation Meditation is to find a comfortable chair or couch, and proceed to take a couple of slow, deep breaths. Then, scan your body and notice the most uncomfortable feeling or sensation you feel. Focus on this area of your body, and feel exactly whatever is there. For example, if you’re annoyed you might notice a tightness in your chest and a warm feeling in your throat. If you’re worried, you may notice a tension in your forehead muscles and shoulder blades. Ultimately, our emotions are experienced in our body as specific sensations such as warmth or coolness, tightness or relaxation, sharp or blunt, etc. As you notice uncomfortable sensations in your body, try to be aware of the resistance you have to experience these uncomfortable feelings. Instead of avoiding or pushing away the discomfort you feel, simply allow the sensations to be there. Give yourself full permission to feel whatever is going on in the present moment. Continue reading →
FREE live teleseminar on “The Best Ways to Increase Happiness Through Great Relationships.”
I’ve got good news. I’m going to lead a FREE live teleseminar on “The Best Ways to Increase Happiness Through Great Relationships.”
In this teleseminar, I’ll be discussing simple ways to increase happiness and make your relationships and your life more joyous and nurturing.
Many of these ideas only take a couple of minutes to do–yet their effect on your life, friendships and romantic partner can be amazing.
Did you know that truly happy people live 9 years longer than “ordinary folks,” have half the level of divorce, and make almost a million more dollars over their lifetime? In today’s high stress world, you need to know the latest cutting edge methods to feel good—even when things are not going the way you like.
When: Wednesday, July 31, 2013 6:00 pm PDT
It will be about an hour long, and if time permits, I’ll be happy to take your questions. Email questions in advance to jonathan@findinghappiness.com.
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There is nothing more important to increase happiness than creating loving relationships and a fulfilling life for yourself. In this teleseminar you’ll learn secrets that will impact the rest of your life. I look forward to having you join us…
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