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Let Your Heart Shine!

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on August 24, 2015 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

openheartRecently I’ve been taking a class in what’s called “Non-Violent Communication.” If you don’t know what that is, it’s a way of communicating that involves giving empathy, as well as a way of trying to understand your partner’s feelings and needs. If you agree we’re partly on the planet to learn how to love, then learning how to communicate compassionately is one of the premier tools to help us achieve this lofty goal. In the class, I’ve learned a lot about how to use words to open up my own and other’s hearts. Here are a couple of highlights:

First, I have a deepening realization that we’re all just trying to get the same needs and desires fulfilled. We all want to feel understood; we all want to be respected, approved of, and loved.   Yet, we sometimes go about getting these needs met in ineffective or even self-destructive ways. When we learn to communicate better, it opens up the possibility of giving and receiving love more easily (and frequently).Feelings

Secondly, I’ve seen that people (including myself) really, really want empathy. Empathy is defined as “the understanding of another’s feelings.” People don’t want to be fixed, analyzed, or classified. They want their feelings heard and even emotionally shared with the people they care about.

 

Recently, my wife shared with me her feelings about a situation that was giving her trouble. Normally, I might suggest what she should do to remedy the situation, or how she should change her own attitude and behavior. Instead, I bit my lip and just listened. I imagined how I would feel if dealing with a similar situation. In fact, I started to tear up as I began to feel her pain.   I held her hand and continued to listen. When the urge came to tell her what to do, I instead just stayed with what she was feeling. Finally, her pain seemed to dissipate and she told me, “Thank you for your help. I really feel so much better.”

Couple-7Later that evening my wife told me how she planned to handle the situation that was troubling her in a different way. It ends up it was exactly in line with what I had wanted her to do—but never expressed. Instead of giving her “the answer,” she came up with it herself.   Having come up with it herself, she was much more likely to act on it than if I had told her what to do.

How is your ability to communicate with the people you care about? I once wrote a bestselling book called “Communication Miracles for Couples,” but I’m finding there is still so much more to learn and practice. We can always get better at expressing our vulnerable truth and listening empathically to those we care about. Good communication takes a lot of practice.. In this day and age of high stress and little time, it’s more important than ever that we learn to communicate in compassionate and heartfelt ways.

 

 

Posted in How to Be Happy, How to Find Happiness

Three Secrets to Joyful Relationships!

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on August 30, 2014 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

images-1Secret #1 for Joyful Relationships: Make Your Partner Or Friends Happy to See You. I have a Golden Retriever that virtually everyone loves.   One reason she is so popular is that, the moment she sees anyone, she runs up to them and excitedly greets them.  She makes everyone feel totally special and appreciated.  People love feeling loved and special.   If you make people feel loved and special, they will be very happy to see you.  If people are happy to see you, your own happiness will get a boost.   It’s that simple.  So when you first see your partner or your friend, go up and excitedly lick their face.  Just kidding.   Yet, it’s a good idea to smile and give them a hug—or whatever is your way of expressing that you’re excited to see someone you care about.   Secret #2:  Do an Act of Kindness Studies show that doing an act of kindness for a stranger or a friend is the fastest way to boost your own level of happiness.   It’s a win-win.  You feel better, they feel better, and there’s a bit more kindness in the world.  It need not be a big act of kindness.  You can simply say something you appreciate, buy a small gift, or give your friend a shoulder massage.  As I once said on the Oprah show, “kindness is like chocolate; it’s addictive.  Once you see that it makes your life better, it’s easy to keep it going.”   Secret #3:  Practice Play and You More (humor) If you watch kids, they play and laugh a lot.  Four year olds who hang out with each other make playing the basis of their relationship.  As adults, we sometimes forget about the power of laughter and play.  We don’t even “play” tennis.  Instead, we compete at tennis.   But play is a natural and joyous way of being with someone you care about.   If you let more play and humor into your marriage or friendships, you’ll feel both closer and more joyous.   So get out the board games, beer, funny movies or whatever helps you to play, and enjoy the fruits of fun and silliness.   So that’s an appetizer.   I hope you’ll join me on my call in which I go into the full 10 secrets for creating joyful relationships.   By signing up for the “deeply happy” telesummit, you’ll get a chance to listen to many happiness experts describe tools and ideas to add even more joy to your life…You can sign up for that by clicking here: www.deeplyhappy.com

Posted in Healthy Relationships, How to Be Happy, Uncategorized

My New Book “Find Happiness Now”

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on June 24, 2014 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

find_happiness_now (1)What do you want in life?  You may think it’s money, or a hot relationship or a better job, but why do you want those things?  Because you think if you had them, you’d be even happier.   I call this belief the “as soon as” method for finding happiness.  You think “As soon as I have more money, or as soon as I lose 10 pounds, or as soon as I find my soul mate, THEN I will be happy.”  I have good news and bad news for you. First, the bad news:  if you are a member of the “as soon as” approach to finding happiness, you’ll never be happy for long.

But there’s good news.  Recent research shows that happiness can be learned, and it doesn’t require that you change anything in your life.   In my new book, “Find Happiness Now”  I reveal simple ways you can: Continue reading →

Posted in Books, How to Be Happy, How to Find Happiness, Jonathan Robinson | Tagged book, finding, Jonathan Robinson, life, love, manage, positive psychology

How to Never Argue Again

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on November 15, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

kids arguingAs a psychotherapist, I often counsel couples who frequently argue. Early in my career, I tried to help these people with communication techniques aimed at helping them be more open with each other. Yet, it rarely worked. They would simply forget the method and continue with their verbal attacks. When I realized couples behave like hurt infants when they get into a fight, I asked myself, “What helps crying infants to feel better?” The answer was obvious–they like to be held. As parents gently hold their baby, the baby soon feels better. Before you know it, the infant is giggling and happy. I wondered if a similar approach might work with adults. After much trial and error, I found something that works even better than I expected. I call it “The Spoon Tune.”

One of the great things about the Spoon Tune is how easy it is. When we are upset, we do not have the capacity to do anything complicated. Luckily, the Spoon Tune has just two simple steps to it. First, at the earliest sign of upset, lie down with your partner in “spooning” position. Spooning is the way in which many couples sleep. It consists of having one person’s front side hugging the other person’s backside. Couples can also “spoon” standing up if they are in a place where they cannot lie down, or there is no place to do so. Although holding your partner in this manner is hard to do when you are upset, direct yourself to do it. Sometimes I think to myself that I have a choice between spooning for four minutes and feeling fine or staying upset and ruining the rest of the day. When I clearly see that those are my two options, I begin spooning.

Next, spooningwhile in a spooning position, breathe in unison with your mate. Generally, it is best for the bigger partner to follow the breath of the smaller partner. When the smaller person inhales, the other partner should inhale. When the smaller partner exhales, the other should exhale. Hold each other and breathe in unison like this for at least four minutes. Do not say anything. As soon as your mind wanders, focus once again on breathing in unison with your partner.

No matter how upset you are

At the beginning of this simple exercise, you will find yourself quickly calming down. The combination of being in the spooning position and breathing together puts people back on the same wavelength. When you share energy in this way, it creates a feeling of safety and connection at a very deep level. Although your mind may be racing and storming, your bodies and souls cannot help but connect. By the end of a few minutes, you may not even remember what you were upset. At the very least, you will feel more connected and safe, and are much better able to work things out without hurting each other. Oftentimes, the “issue”, which seemed so big just minutes before, will have become totally unimportant.

lionsOnce you begin the Spoon Tune, no talking allowed. If possible, find a place to lie down together. If that is not possible “spoon” standing up. The key to doing this method successfully is to breathe together. As you breathe together, try to focus on and be present with each breath. Use your breath as a meditation. By focusing on your breath as it goes in and out in rhythm with your partner’s breath, you will feel more peaceful, safe, and connected, spoon for at least three minutes.

Once you are done spooning, you have a couple of options.  You can simply forget about whatever led to the upset and go about your business, or, if you feel it’s necessary, you can talk things over with your partner.  If you need to work something out, you will be in a much better frame of mind to do so.

You need not wait until you are upset to use the Spoon Tune. In fact, it is a great way to connect with your partner anytime. Many couples find it to be an easy and satisfying way to unwind after a stressful day. It can also be a very effective way to connect with your partner before making love. The hardest thing about this method is remembering to use it. Make an agreement that either you or your partner can ask for a “spooning” if you feel like your tempers are starting to get the best of you. Be on the lookout for times when you or your partner begin to get upset, or you both feel stressed. In order to use the Spoon Tune correctly the first time you get angry at each other, it is a good idea to try a practice run when you are not upset. Once you use it the first time and see how well it works, you will be hooked.

 

Posted in Anger, Being Present, Gratitude, Healthy Relationships, How to Be Happy, How to Find Happiness, Jonathan Robinson | Tagged experience, finding, happiness, how to be happy, Jonathan Robinson, partner, positive psychology

How to Easily Overcome Disturbing Memories

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on October 17, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

JRmemoriesDo bad memories or images ever haunt you?   Do you sometimes flash back to some of the most traumatic moments of your past?  For some reason, the human mind has a nasty tendency to forget important things like your mother’s birthday, but is more than happy to frequently remind you of the worst events of your life.  Fortunately, there’s an antidote to this glitch in the human bio-computer.  It’s called the Erasure Technique.  In a matter of a few minutes, this powerful method can virtually neutralize the bad feelings associated with almost anything you’ve ever experienced.  I’ve even used it with clients who have suffered from disturbing memories for many years.  Whether you want to neutralize images of a minor car accident or the hurt from the ending of a relationship, the erasure technique can make a dramatic difference in your life. Continue reading →

Posted in Depression, How to Be Happy, Key to Happiness, Mood, Positive Psychology | Tagged experience, finding, Jonathan Robinson, joy, love, overcoming self criticism, positive psychology

Positive Psychology Exercises

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on May 21, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

86543081What would it be like if you found out that you had a million dollars in a secret bank account, but you didn’t know it? Wouldn’t that be great?  Well, in a certain way you do.  You have enormous riches locked within you in the form of positive feelings—such as love, gratitude, compassion, and joy.  The problem is, most people haven’t known how to access these feelings.  Yet, the new field of Positive Psychology has developed simple exercises that can help anyone feel greater levels of happiness.

For those who don’t know about Positive Psychology exercises, they’re simple methods that have mostly been developed by psychologist Dr. Marty Seligman.  According to numerous studies, these quick methods can greatly boost your level of happiness.   Since we’re all trying to be happier, having a “technology” that’s been shown to really work is cause for celebration. People currently use very inefficient methods of being happier—such as trying to make a lot of money or have fewer wrinkles.   While such things work a smidgen, Positive Psychology exercises have been proven to work much, much better in creating feelings of true well-being.

You may be wondering, if these simple exercises work so well, then why don’t more people know about them?  The reason is that there is not a lot of money to be made in teaching Positive Psychology exercises.  You can make a lot of money selling pills—such as antidepressants—but there is very little money to be made teaching exercises that change people’s lives.

For better or worse, that’s my job

168855775I sell (for very little money I might add), a systematic course in teaching people the best and most powerful ways to quickly boost their level of happiness.  There are over 30 methods in my Deeper Happiness course that have been shown to boost people’s level of happiness, and most of them take under three minutes a day to do.   That’s great news.  It’s like learning you had a million dollars lying around in the bank, but you didn’t know it.

Let me give you a couple of really quick examples of what I mean.  One Positive Psychologyexercise is to do a Gratitude Journal.  By writing down three things you feel grateful for during each day, your level of satisfaction with your life will gradually rise.  To “turbo charge” your Gratitude Journal, you could include a sentence on how something about you helped make each of those good things happen. For instance, let’s say that one of the things you were grateful for was a good conversation with a friend.  To make that statement even more powerful, you could say how your open heartedness helped you to create that experience.

Science often helps us discover things that seem to defy logic.  It makes no sense that a 50 ton airplane can fly, but it obviously can.  Likewise, it makes no sense that a simple 2 minute Positive Psychology exercise typically brings more joy into your life than if you suddenly doubled your income. But that’s what numerous studies have indicated.    As I said, not knowing about the potential power of Positive Psychology exercises is like not knowing you have a million dollars in your bank account.

Now that you know that Positive Psychology exercises can truly impact your life, you have to figure out what, if anything, to do about it.  Most people—because they have been hypnotized by their culture, will continue to put all their hope into finding happiness through ineffective means.  They’ll hope that more money changes their life, or hope that the next relationship will magically make them fulfilled.  Such endeavors will surely keep them busy, but are unlikely to help them discover the treasure of positive feelings living inside them.

Other people will do such things as read books about how to be happier

stk161282rkeAlthough such books contain valuable information, virtually no one uses what they read from books in a systematic manner in their daily life.  It’s just too big of a jump.  What’s needed is a simple, almost automatic way to be reminded to use Positive Psychology exercises in daily life.

That’s why I created the Deeper Happiness daily audio program for learning and using such exercises. In the program, a person listens to a fun 15-minute talk each morning before they get to work that details a great Positive Psychology exercise. Then, their task is to use that simple exercise sometime during their day.   I created the program so that people could really incorporate these great exercises into their daily lives.  Most the exercises take only 2 minutes a day to do, and the supplied reminder cards help a person to remember to do the exercises.

The typical result of doing these simple techniques days after day is that your life feels more purposeful, fun, joyous, and meaningful.  Soon, you learn which methods really work amazingly well for you, and which don’t seem like a good fit.  Once you find simple ways to help you quickly overcome negative feelings and tune into positive feelings, your life will never be the same.  It will be like finally having complete access to that secret bank account of riches.  You can even get the first three Positive Psychology exercises from the Deeper Happiness program for free here.  You’ll be amazed at how well these simple methods can improve the quality of your life, health, and relationships.

Posted in How to Be Happy, How to Find Happiness, Inspire Me Today, Jonathan Robinson, Key to Happiness | Tagged experience, fullest, happiness, Jonathan Robinson, joy, life, love, manage, positive psychology

Everything You Know about Happiness Is Wrong

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on May 16, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

160619033You are living in a dangerous cult.  I mean it.  Of course, like most people in cults, you don’t think it’s dangerous—or that it’s even a cult.  This “cult” that you (and I) are living in is the hyper capitalist economic system of modern day life.

In this cult or cult-ure we’re part of, we’re hypnotized to believe certain things that are not really true.  For example, we’re conditioned to believe that if only we had more money, or the right relationship or less wrinkles—THEN we’d be a lot happier.  Studies prove that these ideas aren’t actually true, but we eventually start to believe them because we’re constantly bombarded with such messages.

Here’s a question that can determine if you’ve truly been indoctrinated into the capitalist cult.  Which of these two options do you think would make you happier?  Option one:  winning over a million dollars in the lottery.  Option two: becoming paralyzed from the waist down.  Which do you think would lead you to being happier after a year of time has passed?

If you think the obvious answer is winning the lottery, you’re wrong.  It means you’ve bought our cult’s basic dogma—that what happens to you determines your level of happiness.  Although such a notion is widespread and unquestioned in Western culture, scientific research does not bear this idea out.  People who are paralyzed and people who win the lottery are equally happy after a year of time has passed.

In the search for hypnotizedhappiness that we are all on, you can’t assume anything that you’ve heard.  Unfortunately, our culture is constantly pushing its ideas about finding the “good life” onto us, and that brainwashing does not necessarily have anything to do with being happy. After all, does Donald Trump look joyous to you? In the last twenty years, the average GDP of Chinese citizens has gone up 400%, and yet their average level of happiness has actually gone down.

In our culture, we’ve also been led to believe that having a lot of choice is a good thing.  There are over 24,000 items to choose from just in your local supermarket.  With the Internet, our range of choices has become virtually infinite.  The problem is we’ve been led to assume that the more choices we have, the richer and more satisfying our lives will become.  Yet, numerous studies show that our gluttony of choice mostly just adds to our level of stress–and makes us less contended with our lives.

In fact, contrary to cult doctrine, having a lot of money, good health, or a job you enjoy doesn’t truly lead to happiness.  Rather, research shows that we have it completely backwards.  Numerous studies indicate that it is being a happy person that leads to having more money, good health and a job you enjoy.  Highly fulfilled people end up making over $750,000 more during their lifetime than people who are unhappy.  Highly contented people also live an average of 8 years longer than the rest of us, and have half the level of divorce.

If the specifics of our lives (money, health, job, choice) don’t determine our level of happiness, what does?   Researchers have identified several factors.  First, part of our happiness is determined by our genetics.  Unfortunately, there’s nothing we can do about that.  Yet, much of our level of well-being is due to our attitude, our focus on relationships, and certain beliefs and behaviors that happy people tend to have.  Fortunately, many of these attitudes and behaviors can be easily learned.

166624595Here’s just one example.  Highly contented people tend to schedule time each week for activities they truly enjoy.  On the other hand, unhappy people tend to make excuses as to why they don’t have time for what they really like to do.  Here’s another example.  Happy people make being with friends and enjoying life a central priority in their life, whereas less contented folks make things like making money their main priority.

Here’s the problem.  How do you become a happy person while living in a cult (culture) that does not value what really leads to happiness?   It’s hard.   It requires going against the grain of what the people around you are doing.  It means you need to ignore the 500 or so advertising messages you get each day, and instead listen to the still, small voice inside.   In fact, that’s what happy people do a lot.  They spend quiet time in nature.  They surround themselves with people, books, and ideas that nurture their dream of a joyful, caring, and deeply fulfilling life.

Like you, I was conditioned to think that certain things would make me happy.  For better or worse, I got many of those things at an early age.  I got rich.  I wrote books that got me on Oprah and other national shows on numerous occasions.  Instead of feeling a sense of accomplishment, I felt like I always had to do something bigger and better in the future.  I was not a happy camper.  There was only one way out—and that was “in.”   As I studied the research on happiness, I learned that everything I’d been taught about how to be happy was basically not true.

It turns out 167344377that the American Dream is actually a repetitive, busy, and not too unpleasant nightmare.  I soon realized that always striving for more, always being busy, and constantly competing for recognition was not a path to greater peace of mind.  As I began to see through the brainwashing of Western culture, I began to notice what really made me happy.  What really made me happy wasn’t having bouncy hair, a big house, or a Mercedes.  It ends up it was little moments of depth and joy I could find in everyday life. Nowadays, I spend more time playing with my dog, watching sunsets, hanging out with my friends, reading great books, and meditating.

So your mission, should you decide to accept it, is to find out what actually makes you uniquely happy.   Assume you’ve been in a dangerous cult and you need to get free of its programming.  Ask questions, explore new ideas, and notice when your actual experience does not match up with beliefs and behaviors that have been forced on you from the cult we’re in.  To help show you the way, there is a certain group of people who tend to be very happy a lot of the time.  This “group of people” are kids under the age of six.  What do they do differently than adults?  They play more, they plan less, and they explore the present moment fully and completely.   That’s a good place to start on the ever-evolving road to happiness.

Posted in Being Present, How to Be Happy, How to Find Happiness, Jonathan Robinson, Key to Happiness | Tagged finding, fullest, happiness, inspire, Jonathan Robinson, joy, life

Pain and Pleasure List

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on April 15, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023
Woman getting pleasure from a bike ride

Woman doing housework in pain.What do you absolutely love to do? It need not be a big thing. Perhaps you really love to watch football, or maybe you really enjoy baking your own bread. Often, we get so caught up in living our life that we forget to take time for life’s simple pleasures. Many people find that their life is so full of responsibilities that they rarely take time for fun and adventure. If that sounds like you, then you’ll benefit by using the “Pain and Pleasure List.” The Pain and Pleasure List is a catalog of at least ten things you enjoy doing and a list of ten things you don’t particularly care for. It helps you clarify what really turns you on in life and what you do only because you have to – or think you should. While we all need to do things we don’t like from time to time, life is not meant to be a series of burdens and responsibilities. By having a Pain and Pleasure List, you’ll be able to make important changes in your life with a lot more ease.

Woman making a pain and pleasure list.The first step in using the Pain and Pleasure List is to simply create it. The singular act of writing down ten things you love to do and ten things you don’t care for can reveal a lot about your life. Recently, a client named James made his list while in my office. He had originally come to see me because of depression, stress at work, and problems with his wife. This was the list he created:

Ten Things I Don’t Like to Do

  1. Go to work.
  2. Market myself or my products.
  3. Clean the house.
  4. Cook.
  5. Be around disagreeable people.
  6. Spend time with my parents.
  7. Taxes and paying the bills.
  8. Give my wife a massage.
  9. Go shopping for clothes or gifts.
  10. Argue with wife.
Ten Things I Love to Do

  1. Ride my bike
  2. Be by myself, reading a good book.
  3. Play with the dog.
  4. Eat good food.
  5. Travel.
  6. Get a massage.
  7. Spend time in nature.
  8. Make love with my wife.
  9. Drive and listen to music.
  10. Watch a good football game.

You can write you own Pain and Pleasure List here.

After James made his Pain and Pleasure List, I had him estimate the number of hours every month he spent doing each activity. When he finished this part of the exercise, it was brutally clear why he was depressed, stressed, and messed-up with his wife. The total number of hours Man with bag on head obviously feeling emotional pain.on the “pain” side of the list was a whopping 215 hours per month. The total number of hours on the “pleasure” side of the list was a meager 32 hours a month. That’s almost a seven-to-one ratio of pain to pleasure. I’ve found that when the degree of pain as compared to pleasure rises above a five-to-one ratio, people dislike their life. In order to feel good again, such people need to spend less time doing “painful” activities, and more time doing what they enjoy.

The first key to changing your life and behavior is to be aware of what’s currently not working. If, after completing your own Pain and Pleasure List, you see a similar pattern to James’, then you’ll know you’ve been denying yourself too much. You need to put pleasurable activities at a greater level of importance in your life. Sometimes people think if they make pleasure a bigger priority, the rest of their life will fall apart. Not true. When we don’t have enough good times in our life, we become less capable and effective in our career and relationships. We pay a price. As we feel good more regularly, the rising sea of our emotions tends to lift the various “boats” of our life.

Woman displaying pleasure on  a car ride.Although less frequently, some people who complete the Pain and Pleasure List see a pattern of having too much pleasure in their life. They tend to avoid responsibilities and discipline at all costs. Unfortunately, this form of hedonism doesn’t work well long term. By avoiding difficult things now, people with this predilection often create problems in their finances and relationships later on. The key to having a successful life is to find the right balance of pain to pleasure. It must be a balance that works, not only in one’s current life, but it must also work long term.

Another way the Pain and Pleasure List can be useful is as a convenient reminder of what you really like to do. Sometimes, we get so caught up in the various “chores of life” that we forget to enjoy ourselves. By putting the Pain and Pleasure List in a place where you’ll see it often, it can softly help you to remember the direction you want to go. Ultimately, to change your life, you need to change individual behaviors. If there’s a lot of pain and little pleasure in your life, ask yourself the following two questions:

  1. Are there any activities on the “pain” side of the list that I can easily change, do less
    of, or have someone else do instead?
  2. Are there any activities on the “pleasure” side of the list that I can easily do more of,
    beginning with scheduling time for it in my life right now?

Woman enjoying a pleasurable bike ride.As you ask yourself these two questions, search your lists for answers you can immediately act upon. Then, take action. Schedule a fun activity into your busy week, or see if you can get someone else to do what you always hate doing. Even a small change can snowball into a major shift in your attitude and disposition. Let the Pain and Pleasure List be your caring companion—gently reminding you of the road to greater fulfillment.

Get started right now by downloading a blank Pain and Pleasure List here. And read more about living a happier life in Happiness Resources.

Posted in Healthy Relationships, How to Be Happy, How to Find Happiness, Mood

How to Be Filled With Energy

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on March 25, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

ways to get more energyHave you ever felt depressed and filled with enormous amounts of energy at the same time?  Probably not.  When we have a lot of energy, we both feel better and get more done.  Of course, we’re told that the way to greater vim and vigor is to eat right, exercise, and avoid harmful substances.  We know what we should do, but we often don’t have the energy or discipline to follow through.  If you’re like me, you wonder “are there any safe shortcuts to how to have more energy?”  Luckily, there are.  There are now a plethora of supplements in health food stores that can safely and effectively help you to get more energy.  Once you find how to get more energy in a way that works well for you, it’s like finding a magic pill that helps you feel healthier, happier, and more energized.  Who knows, you may even become motivated to eat better and exercise more often!

If you go to a health food store and ask about supplements  to get more energy, you’ll likely be overwhelmed by the number of products available.  After much trial and error, I’ve learned three things about how to get more energy in a way that feels good to your body. 161718759 First of all, it’s important to look at the ingredients in each of the bottles. Many energy supplements are really just caffeine-like derivatives that take a toll on your body.   Caffeine, Ma Huang, Ephedra, and Guarana are all very similar in that they stress your adrenal glands and ultimately leave you with less energy.   It’s better to look for products whose main ingredients are things like bee pollen, spirulina, wheat grass, amino acids, ginseng, algae, royal jelly, or vitamin B-12.

The second thing to know when looking for a supplement to get more energy is that different pills work for different people.  Just because your friend swears that Product X changed her life doesn’t mean it will have any effect on you.  It’s best to buy small amounts of several products and give each one a trial run to see which one works best.  In addition, you may need to try each supplement for a couple of weeks to notice what, if anything, it does for you.   Thirdly, there’s a tendency for your body to gain a “tolerance” for whatever you take.  This means that, over time, it has less effect on your body.  That’s why it may take more caffeine than it used to in order for you to feel really “buzzed.”  If you’ve tried several supplements, you can begin with the one that had the greatest effect, but periodically change to others when you feel you’re building up a tolerance.

Uptime to get more energyBearing all this information in mind, there are several supplements I can heartily recommend because of their ingredients and the consistently good results people report.  My personal favorite is something called Uptime.  Although it has a small amount of caffeine in it, it has plenty of nutritional goodies that more than make up for the fact that it contains a little caffeine.  If you’re a coffee drinker, definitely consider using Uptime as a healthier alternative.  If you can’t find it in your health food store, you can order it directly online (I have no financial ties to this company—or any products I recommend here).
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Another favorite is something called Ultra Energy Plus by the Rainbow Lite company.  This product is filled with good stuff, and contains no caffeine at all.  Although it doesn’t take effect as quickly as Uptime, it can give you a nice boost of sustained energy.  Think of it as a powerful food that blasts your body with vitamins.  For people who like to take only natural herbs instead of vitamins, there’s a product called Ginseng Energy Now.  It’s especially suitable for people who are very sensitive to supplements.

There are also various drinks you can buy to give your body a boost of energy.  Nowadays there are many places that offer a variety of fresh squeezed juices that are energizing and good for you.  Look for smoothies that have bee pollen, vitamin B-12, or a lot of “green stuff” added to them, or try some fresh wheatgrass juice.  A big smoothie sipped throughout the day can provide you with plenty of vitamins and sustained energy.  Experiment with what your local juice bar offers until you find one that tastes good and feels great.

how to get more energy and jump for joy The great thing about finding a Magic Pill or drink to get more energy is how easy it is.  No matter how lazy you are, you can always pop a pill into your mouth or drink some fresh juices. Although supplements are easy to “use,” their effect can be life transforming.  Many people don’t realize that the reason they feel depressed or unhealthy is due to a lack of nutrients.  I’ve seen clients in my therapy practice who literally change overnight by finding a supplement they really needed to take.  Once you  know how to get more energy in a way that feels good to your body, you’ll have a consistent way to support your body, mind, and spirit. With a little exploring, for under a dollar a day, you can find a supplement that can have a major impact on your life.  That’s a deal too good to refuse.

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How to Easily Manage Your Mood

Jonathan Robinson, Finding Happiness Posted on February 25, 2013 by Jonathan RobinsonJanuary 16, 2023

Relaxing to musicWe all want to experience deeper peace in our lives, or simply have more joy. As a teacher of workshops on happiness, I’ve looked for quick ways to help people quiet their minds and/or enjoy more fun and play. Of the many different things I’ve tried, I’ve found one formula to be so simple and effective that I heartily recommend it to everyone. I call this method The Magical Playlist.

In essence, the Magical Playlist is simply an iTunes playlist of songs created for a specific purpose. By creating playlists dedicated to certain moods, you can easily have access to some of your favorite feelings — with hardly any effort. After all, your personal favorite songs have the ability to move you into your heart, uplift your spirit, and help you feel a depth of peace.

A man named Frank came to see me complaining of marital difficulties. As he entered my office, it was clear that he was very tense. He told me that his wife was fed up with him because of how stressed he was from his job as an air traffic controller. When he went home each evening, he’d spend the first three hours in front of the tube–just trying to unwind from his job. By the time he started to feel a bit relaxed and sociable, his wife was ready to go to bed. After asking him some questions, I learned that he enjoyed classical music. I suggested he make a playlist of his favorite classical works, and listen to a couple of songs in his car before entering his house each evening. When he returned to my office the following week, he told me that his wife reported, “You’ve become a new man.” Apparently, ten minutes of classical music helped Frank unwind much more effectively than three hours of TV. By the time he walked into his house each night, Frank was relaxed, refreshed, and emotionally available for his wife.

For many people, music is an easy and amazingly effective way to become centered. I’ve coached many of my clients to carefully choose the type of music to play before key events in their life. Before an important presentation, they might choose a favorite rock ‘n roll song. Before a romantic night on the town with their mate, they may choose a favorite love song. Before a time of meditation or prayer, they may choose some New Age or quiet piano music. By knowing what mood you’d like to “get into,” and choosing an appropriate piece of music to assist in that process, many people find they can successfully manage their moods much more effectively than ever before.

ipodOf all the possessions I own, my iPod is my most treasured. By listening to certain songs, I have almost immediate access to any feeling I want—without any cost, and no known side effects! When making certain playlists, I looked through all the songs I have on my computer, and carefully selected songs that have always had the most impact on me. Nowadays, I have special “mood altering” playlists categorized in five different ways: First, songs that put me in a fun and happy mood. In this category, I have songs like “Twist and Shout” and “I Wanna Hold Your Hand” by the Beatles. It’s hard to sing along with such songs without getting a smile on your face. Try it and you’ll see what I mean.

Second, I have a playlist dedicated to meaningful, mellow songs that help put me in my heart. In this category, I have songs such as Kansas’ “Dust in the Wind.” By putting a lot of heart-oriented songs in one playlist, I have a guaranteed way to calm down and feel contemplative when I feel so inclined. Third, I have a playlist of my favorite instrumental songs. Sometimes I just want to quiet my mind, and heartfelt instrumental music can often do the job even better than a time spent meditating.

BluesonStreetMy fourth “magical” playlist includes songs that make me feel energized and motivated. These are songs I like to shout to, like Bruce Springsteen’s “Born to Run,” or U2’s “Vertigo.” After shouting to a couple of songs on this playlist, I feel like I can tackle anything. Finally, I have a playlist of songs that make me feel all lovey and mushy inside. These songs are great to listen to before you spend time with your mate or a date.

After a five to ten minute vacation with some of your favorite music, your mind will be clearer and your soul more soothed. With hardly any effort at all, you’ll find that you can transcend a nasty mood—or simply a stressful day. You’ll end up being able to better handle whatever life throws your way. The hour or so it takes to put your initial playlists together will be amply rewarded by countless hours of peace, love, and energized enthusiasm. It’s an amazingly effective investment in your well-being…

Posted in How to Be Happy, Inspire Me Today, Key to Happiness, Mood | Tagged easy, experience, finding, fullest, happiness, Jonathan Robinson, joy, life, manage

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