Secret #1 for Joyful Relationships: Make Your Partner Or Friends Happy to See You. I have a Golden Retriever that virtually everyone loves.   One reason she is so popular is that, the moment she sees anyone, she runs up to them and excitedly greets them.  She makes everyone feel totally special and appreciated.  People love feeling loved and special.   If you make people feel loved and special, they will be very happy to see you.  If people are happy to see you, your own happiness will get a boost.   It’s that simple.  So when you first see your partner or your friend, go up and excitedly lick their face.  Just kidding.   Yet, it’s a good idea to smile and give them a hug—or whatever is your way of expressing that you’re excited to see someone you care about.   Secret #2:  Do an Act of Kindness Studies show that doing an act of kindness for a stranger or a friend is the fastest way to boost your own level of happiness.   It’s a win-win.  You feel better, they feel better, and there’s a bit more kindness in the world.  It need not be a big act of kindness.  You can simply say something you appreciate, buy a small gift, or give your friend a shoulder massage.  As I once said on the Oprah show, “kindness is like chocolate; it’s addictive.  Once you see that it makes your life better, it’s easy to keep it going.”   Secret #3:  Practice Play and You More (humor) If you watch kids, they play and laugh a lot.  Four year olds who hang out with each other make playing the basis of their relationship.  As adults, we sometimes forget about the power of laughter and play.  We don’t even “play” tennis.  Instead, we compete at tennis.   But play is a natural and joyous way of being with someone you care about.   If you let more play and humor into your marriage or friendships, you’ll feel both closer and more joyous.   So get out the board games, beer, funny movies or whatever helps you to play, and enjoy the fruits of fun and silliness.   So that’s an appetizer.   I hope you’ll join me on my call in which I go into the full 10 secrets for creating joyful relationships.   By signing up for the “deeply happy” telesummit, you’ll get a chance to listen to many happiness experts describe tools and ideas to add even more joy to your life…You can sign up for that by clicking here: www.deeplyhappy.com